Lazy mum?

[sweetmaryjane10]

Am i terribly lazy? Hubby thinks so. I dunno maybe I am. Here's a typical day. We have one 2 year old boy by the way

I get up with him around 8-9. Play read etc. Sometimes go for a walk

Hubby up around midday unless he's working. He plays for a bit too. Sometimes I have a nap then but not always. Other times I wait until after lunch at 1pm and both me and toddler nap together for 1-2 hours. Mostly I make lunch Altho it's never anything too hard

Play/relax read sing etc until around 5 when tv goes on for half hour while hubby cooks and I chat to him or play on my phone

Dinner at 5.30. I wash up after and have a shower then we take it in turns to bath and dry the little man and hubby puts him to bed around 8

Today however he hasn't wanted a nap and I've done bugger all all day and have left it hugely up to hubby to do playing. Naughty?

I am 6 months preg but I was like this before

It's not for us to decide.

If your husband had told you that he isn't happy with the split of chores then you need to talk to him about it and find a way that works for both of you.

I was asking if I'm a lazy mum not lazy as a person

I was answering the question about whether you are a lazy mum.

It's not for us to decide.

Your husband, who know what sort of mum you are, thinks you are. Discuss it with him! Either he has a valid point of he's out of order. Ask him why he thinks that? Listen to what he says. See what you think.

the how do you feel about him getting up at Midday?

How did your chat with him go?

I don't like him getting up so late but he argues he does more than me so maybe that's true and if we have plans he gets up on time

I didn't say I was having a chat with him?

What counts as play?

Taking him to the park, showing him books and reading, counting leaves..? Meeting ducks, attending a song session on a video call, something else?

Context is too important. Like pp said... We can't really tell you it's bad or good.

Gets up a 12 and calls you lazy 😂

What a piss taker.

Ok it's just Cos I don't play with him tons. Obviously I do a bit and when we are on our own bit hubby is so much better at it than me

You speak about frequently napping, playing on your phone, etc.

Surely a key, objective measure of how fair you're being is, are you sufficiently interacting and stimulating your little 2 years olds growing mind to a level you and partner agree on... And alongside that, how much free time do you and partner each have in a typical week (hint: it should be roughly the same if his resentment is unfounded..)

I would like to think he's stimulated enough but who knows as I'm a first time mum. Hubby seems to think I'm a good parent

He thinks you're a good parent but he thinks you're lazy?

If you're concerned I'd step up interaction, especially as we're in lockdown still so you're all your child has got, and he'll get a lot less soon with a new baby.

If it’s a lack of interaction that your husband is complaining about , try doing chores with your little one !!! My 14 month old LOVES helping me do laundry and is obsessed with the hoover . He actually loves to help me any way he can and something like putting away the groceries can turn into an hour long activity. My DS loves it and it’s nice one on one time .

DS is pretty independent with his toys snd sometimes I find myself stacking blocks and singing along to nursery rhymes and my DS is completely ignoring me and is off organising his books 😝