Does your husband make monster noises at your ds

[thegardener]

Does your dh make monster noises at your ds(mine is 18 months)he doesn't seem to mind but ds does it to his younger friends which don't really seem to, neither would i really but is this something men& boys do?

Also ds loves to come & sit on my knee and play with me but when dh is around he gets very jealous if dh cuddles me/kisses me and will push dh away and come to me to play/cuddle, dh understands that young kids do this but he sometimes does look hurt.

I am the monster noise maker in my family

Can't you have a big family cuddle with everyone?

Yes, I too am the monster in my family.

With regards to the second paragraph, this is perfectly normal. For many years, his true love will be you. But at seven, your ds will only have eyes for his father, and you will feel temporarily bereft.

The stages of man; predictable and comforting

When ds is having his milk he won't stay on dh knee and wants to sit on mine so i try to encourage more sit together times,the cuddle time sounds a good idea so as not to miss out dad.

I feel a bit sad that ds will not want me as much at 7 but then is suppose neither would a girl....or would they?

When you say i will feel temporarily bereft do you mean i will get over it, feels quite hard to imagine now that ds will prefer dad to me as i have got so used to it the other way round although do feel that dh is being pushed out a little.

I suppose not needing you as much as they get older is a good thing as you would be totally exhausted and that's the way it is isn't it

We have family play times all on the bed together, a bit of rough and tumble, kisses cuddles and hiding. Its great fun. DP is the main monster in this house! DS actually tries to encourage DP and me to kiss although I have always felt that DP is perhaps more the favourite with our DS.

DS1 is the mosnter noiser in ths fsamily

DP is the fave in our house with the DSs too, but that's probably because they spend all day with me and I'm a dullard

(Hello Floss, btw!!!)

This reminds me of a conversation my friend had with her ds aged 4 a few weeks ago:-

friend: night, night darling. I love you.

ds: I love you too, but the love is running out!

friend: What do you mean?

ds: Well, I'm beginning to like Daddy more than you.

friend: (trying to do the right thing) well, that ok , as long as you still love me a little bit!

I've got all this coming to me, as my ds is only 8 months!

DH is the favourite here too, unless DD has hurt herself or feels poorly.

TheApprentice - that conversation made me laugh and cry at the same time - god kids are so honest it hurts!!

ds is only 15mo but I'm dreading the day I'm not the centre of his world any more -

Dh is champion monster noise maker. He does a lot of chasing with ds too. I just participate by cheering lots during the rough stuff. He loves big family cuddles though and tends to squeeze our heads together

My DP makes monster noises. We've agreed that our 18m DS sees us very differently:

• Mummy is for cuddles
• Daddy is for chasing.

Saying that we do go in for group cuddles and kisses and DS loves joining in.

Yes dh does - he pretends he is a big monster trying to eat them and the scream and squeal and laugh.

DH doesn't necessarily make monster noises but he does make a big grunting/aargh noise everytime he picks DD2 (2) up - which i find slightly strange.

hI igw - i'll text you in a bit! xx

I don't have a ds, but my DH does this at my two dd's and they give back as good as they get.

Of course!
Making monster/growly bear/ Gruffalo noises at your DS is an essential part of life.
He'd find it strange if I didn't do it!!

Re monster noises - plenty of that going on here with my DH and DS's - my two year old is particularly enamoured of this game and roars back in a rather intimidating fashion - Good for his lungs! Maybe her will be a singer!

Re cuddles - I have the same issue and I explain to DH that it is all a factor of time. He can't expect to be as sought after as me when he only spends 2.5 hours with them Mon-Fri (leaves for work early gets home half an hour before they are in bed). But when I leave the boys with him for a weekend or when we are away on holidays the balance comes back really fast . Biddulph says that little boys will have a stronger bond with their mum until 6 then with their dad until 14 and then apparently we need to find them some kind of mentor .

Thanks for all your messages
Glad there are a lot of other monster about

I feel i'm going to be short changed if ds will love dh more when he's between 6-14, what about girls?