Hey guys, I have some concerns about my DS's behaviour and also how I'm handling it...
He's 2.5... Very smart, very high energy but his speech is abit behind although it is improving and i can understand him most of the time.
The problem is with his aggression and it is only really directed at me. Before lockdown we went to alot of playgroups etc and he's great with other kids... His behaviour with me has escalated since we've been in all day every day but it was there before.
He hits, kicks, throws stuff at me all day for no reason. Sometimes we're sat playing something or watching telly and he will just smash me in the face with something and it bloody hurts and he finds it funny most of the time untill I really tell him off and then all hell breaks loose and he can literally tantrum for hours which includes more screaming, hitting, throwing etc.
I've tried shouting, naughty step, holding his hand til he stops, seperating us, taking toy off him etc.
I think alot of it is attention but he won't let me do anything like clean up and I'm also 6 months pregnant so finding some stuff harder to do and I can't be as hands on with him as I was, he loves being thrown around and rough play etc which daddy does but he's not home much.
I have lost my temper and smacked his hand etc which I really really hate so please no judgey comments, I'm aware that's not helping the situation but it's so frustrating and sometimes he really hurts me. I know I've scared him when I shout and I know I'm not modelling the behaviour I expect from him.
So any tips on how I can keep my cool and what's the best way you've found to handle it? And some positive stories please! I'm at my wits end. I'm constantly crying about it feeling wuilty for being a rubbish mum and it's so hard to not take it personally.
Oh and he also will push every single boundary, doesn't like being told what to do, doesn't do anything I ask him and in fact he will do the opposite most of the time. He's so defiant!!
Thanks in advance x