3 year old..

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Anyone else have a 3 year old who can't tell you when she needs a poo or a wee but will happily just do it in underwear, tried potty training taking her every 20 minutes but a few minutes over she'll just wee herself , won't poo and make herself constipated ! The worst thing is when she does a poo in a pull up she won't tell you I have to ask her she doesn't eeem to care about being dirty..

Desperate just to get her out of pull ups as I have a third baby on the way ! Second is delayed due to a undiagnosed condition so won't be potty training her just yet still young only one and a half but as for my 3 year old , help please lol!

It does sound as though she's not ready yet. Have you tried using something different than pull-ups?

I don't know if it is true but my BF was told by her HV that they make potty training more difficult as the child can't feel wet or poo the same as with a nappy.

Ideally I'd put her in washable nappies.

@JiltedJohnsJulie sorry forgot to add whilst potty training I will have her in underwear only really started over the past few days, tried a few times before and it's failed.

When she's wearing pull ups regardless of what she does she doesn't care. Same with underwear tho but when she's done a wee in that she'll just be like ' look '

I know it's hard with having one due and another little one but it really doesn't sound like she's ready.

If you are struggling, I found this book very helpful as it's not prescriptive but does give you lots of tips and confidence

I've just started training my 2YO and I'm using a book called oh crap potty training. We're only a couple of days in and have a long way to go but she's cracking on pretty fast. 2 of the key things I think will be relevant from this book for you are 1) At this age she is absolutely more than ready. In fact chances are the longer you leave it now the harder it'll get and 2) Have you tried keeping her bare from the waist down for a few days? This book recommends doing this until you're confident you can at least recognise when she's about to go. Then it recommends going commando for a while until she's able to confidently tell you she needs to go. The problem with pants and nappies is they stimulate her muscle memory to tell her that it's ok to do her business in her undergarments and sje can't retrain herself that she needs to do it in the toilet.

Like I said it's very early days but my LO has cracked on really well so far using this method. I'd highly recommend the book and it's on kindle. Good luck xx

PS my LO also had no interest in telling me when she'd filled her nappy and would outright lie if I asked her if she'd done anything because she couldn't be bothered to have her nappy changed. It's not stopped her getting on board with potty training when I basically gave her no choice xx

Hi OP. I feel your pain! My three year old was the same, I felt forced really into potty training her via friends and family. The first five weeks was HELL. I was convinced she wasn’t ready and it really stressed me out, but I persevered and she got it. It’s a LOT of work. It can feel Mentally draining but stick with it and your child will get it eventually I promise. The suggestion from the previous poster about just letting them go around with nothing on for a couple of weeks if you can is great. Maybe have a little treat (chocolate or something inexpensive and small) as a reward for every time they do a wee on the potty and really praise them. Big hugs to you I know it can be a stressful time.