Having the worst day ever

[nikkim]

I am just having the worst morning ever with my dd (3)must be on our fourth tantrum.

Trying to get the housework done so I can get some revision done later already feeling very tired and stressed as exam is on tuesday and I know she is probably picking up on my vibes buit she is just being a nightmare.

Screams every time I try and hoover, has pulled toys out all over the house. normally when I do the housework she tries to be mummy little helper but she is just following me around winging. Kicked the dog for no reason twice, second time put her in the porch for time out she screamed blue murder kicking the door, but then apologised and asked for dinner.

But now won't eat her dinner, wrong meal, too hot, too cold, wrong spoon, wrong fork, wants me to feed her, wants so feed herself. Have followed my own advice and have sat her down in front of sleeping beauty while I sit in the playroom feeling very very stressed. As I am reading this back it all seems so minor but it is getting me down.

[hugs]

it'll pass

good luck for exam

Nikkim, you have my sympathy. I remember those days only too well. Thank God for the video/DVD player - how did our mothers manage without them? (Not that I advocate sitting children in front of them all the time, you understand, but there are moments when they are lifesavers... literally ;).)

I know exactly how our mothers managed

when babies: they used to put us in a pram and wheel us to the bottom of garden and leave us there for an hour or 2

when toddlers: they used to put us in a play pen and go in another room and leave us for an hour or 2

they are not saints, even though they try to pretend they are .. and listen once to the bollocks about how they 'don't understand it, they never had that kind of trouble' reminds you how quickly you forget the bad days

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LOL amfs. My mother used to do both of those (left my sister outside in her pram for so long once she forgot where she was) - now as a grandma she deals with these incidents with an immediate high dose of chocolate.

I should just take her out although she has a dance class at four, have given her some art and craft stuff in the kitchen and she is much happier.

My problem is that I normally do my housework in the evening so that I have all day to give her attention, But as I have exams my dp has been doing it all and I know he doesn't mind but yesterday my mum had a bit of a chip at me as she came around in the evening and I was revising and he put dd to bed and then made my tea and did the ironing. Mum said I expect too much (dp is not dd dad) and that I should do more housework in the day rather than just play with dd. (although yesterday I did meet a friend for lunch as dd was at nursery) so this morning I thought I would try and do the housework my self to give dp a break but moral of the story is take your mothers advice and try and play stepford wife and it will all end in tears.

Babe, on this one YOUR MUM IS WRONG. Take it from me!

I know she is wrong, but when I am tired and feeling low I take criticism to heart and follow all sorts of bollocks advice!

DD is now happy playing estate agents (don't ask ) with the dog! She has just bought him into the playroom where I am and said to him
"This is the playroom where I play my mummy is in here and she she stressed. Shall we look upstairs?!!!!"

spoke too soon took dd out to kick leaves and blow away some cobwebs We had a talk this afternoon and I tried to explain that mummy is very tired and she has a lot to do and big girls help their mummys by being good to which she replied "being good is boring!!"

Got back in the house and the minute I tried to do something for myself she started again .I really do not understand why she behaves like this, she is a child that is showered with love and attention by everyone around her. I have just completely lost it with her and shouted that she is a spoilt brat and if she carries on she can go and live with her dad. An awful thing to say but I am at the end of my tether, feel like I could sit down and cry for hours and she is in the other room now dancing without a care in the world!

I hear what you say about not having to do all the housework in the day but i am incapable of doing anything for more than about two minutes without her shouting at me, crying or pulling at me. I only have a couple of minutes now becuase she is watching Tweenies!

I think you feel like this because you are stresssed and your dd is picking up that your mind is elsewhere. I work at home so always feel the pull of the computer and the phone and if ds senses this it makes him much more demanding. Only natural really. And if I'm stressed over a deadline my normally wonderful son seems to turn into a really difficult boy - but tbh I don't think his behaviour is worse, I just find it harder to cope with the normal demands of a three year old (three demands a minute, apparently, and I can believe it) and stay cheerful. I'd say bugger the housework for a day or so and it will be better, I'm sure, when your exams are over. And yes YOUR MUM IS WRONG!!

I have a 3yo, too, Nikkim. She gets me down most days, too. You sound a lot more attentive & organised than me, too.