DS2 aged 7 wet himself on the bus to school this morning

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He's had a problem with this for ages but usually just 'a little dribble'. Today he had a really big accident on the bus. Luckily he was on the top deck with his friends so came downstairs to me when it started. Managed to get him into school without anyone noticing but then had nearly every member of the teaching staff looking for spare clothes!
He was devastated and just wanted to come home but I left hm when he was in new trousers.

I normally have spare clothes for him in his PE bag but he'd insisted that he didn't want any this year because he was in the juniors.
Don't know what I want you to say. He's seeing a nurse but she says he needs to increase his liquid intake to stretch his bladder - hence the increase in accidents.
I walked home close to tears

I would take him to the doctor if you are worried. Are you confident that the nurse knows what she is talking about?

It sounds as if the school could have handled it a bit better.

Perhaps you could discreetly roll up a pair of spare school trousers and "hide" them at the bottom of his schoolbag so only he knows they're there - just in case he needs them.

My friend 'limits' fluids in the morning before sending her DD1 to school - I don't know whether it would help.

If it was my little boy all I would want was for him to feel happy and confident at school and I would work towards that as a priority and worry about 'stretching his bladder' later.

You know moving into the Juniors can be stressful for lots of children - they are often expected to be more responsible for themselves, etc. Maybe it's just a blip...

Thanks for responding. think I'm on a bit of a guilt trip - firstly for not insisting that he took spare clothes and secondly for insisting that he has lots to drink. Thing is cos mornings are always a rush he only had one small glass of milk before we left for school.

When I went to the doctors he referred me to the nurse as she specialises in this area.

Hopefully it is a blip but it feels like a bit of a vicious circle. Needs more drinks to stretch his bladder, but more drinks means more accidents...

If I was you I would try and research it a bit more - you can always get a second opinion.

In fact, I bet someone will come along in a minute who experienced the same problems.

I find it difficult in the mornings as well only I don't have the extra trouble of having to catch a bus.

If it makes you feel any better DS1 pood his pants today at school nursery as I didn't get up early enough for him to have time to go (he has a pooing phobia so I really am a bad mummy).

I have resolved to get up half an hour earlier tomorrow to allow nature to take its course.

I would see how he is tonight and if it looks like its going to be an issue hold off the fluids in a morning.

I think the thing that is so upsetting is how cruel other children can be. DS2 is a popular, sporty boy but I know he will still be bullied if anyone finds out.

School were actually really good and when I explained how upset he was the head said "well we don't want anyone to be upset when they come to school" and got everyone on a search for shorts/trousers. (Obviously they have lots of spares for younger children but not for juniors). Thank goodness for lost property because they found a pair in there!

Other children can be vile.

DS1's spare clothes are a duplicate (albeit v cheap) school uniform. I bought a £4.00 pair of trousers to just keep in his bag ona permanent basis.

At least if he does do anything he wont stand out.

Just an update - DS2 was fine when he got home. He'd even finished his water bottle at school. I thought he'd be too scared to drink and would end up dehydrated He went to school today with spare clothes hidden in the bottom of his backpack. I got an advice call from the doctor and they have said to consider giving him some medication if the daytime wetting is getting worse. I'm about to google the medication. Have never wanted to take that route but will do anything to stop the wetting becoming an issue at school.

I'm so glad its worked out OK.

Good luck with the medication.