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Unusually Insecure/Paranoid 6 year old daughter

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Slickbird · 09/09/2007 21:50

Hi I'm new here, but I wondered if anyone could offer advice? - Sorry it's quite long!

My 6 year old, a usually very energetic, happy and confident little girl is going through a rough patch at the moment. It seems to have been sparked at a friend's house who's cousin was there who stuck a dead fly down her trousers - naturally she panicked and took them off and he laughed at her. Then she was at another friend's house and they were trying on each other's clothes and she pulled down my D's trousers & pants and started laughing (on questioning the friend, apparently it had been happening at after school club and she was just trying to be funny). My D was then really paranoid that the friend was going to say something to the rest of the class. She has just become body conscious and doesn't want to change infront of people now (which I know is normal).

There was then a couple of girls saying that a wee boy she had been playing with, was her 'boyfriend'. Since then tho, she is now really paranoid that children and even adults are talking about her and laughing at her, despite us doing our best to reassure her.

There are however, MAJOR MAJOR changes going on in her life - I am about to have our 2nd child (am 5 days overdue already) and I know she's concerned how things will be. We are also due to move house in October and thus schools, although I know she is really excited about the new house as it has a big garden and children next door to play with. On top of that, though, her best friend (a boy) has just moved away up north and I think it has hit her hard. We have tried to reassure her and talk to her about EVERYTHING that is going on and understand it is a lot to deal with (even for adults) but tonight she was saying she didn't want to go to school tomorrow because 2 boys had been talking about her. She has always been a friendly & caring girl she has always had plenty of friends. I just don't know what to try now as I am aware there is a balance of giving her support but also making sure it is not just attention seeking.

Any help or advise from someone who has experienced a similar situation or just from the outside looking in, would be much appreciated.

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dolally · 09/09/2007 22:08

how sad for you and dd slick. Hope it's just a bad patch.

I wonder if it's actually the move and the new baby and the loss of the best friend that's unsettling her, and so all the other bumps to her self-confidence are just the straw which have broken the camels back, iyswim.

I don't think you need to worry about giving too much reassurance...it's never too much at that age.

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