Child struggling with speech

[kimberley92]

Hi guys,
This is quite a long one please bear with me,
At this moment I'm over the point of being frustrated my son (2 in June) is struggling with speech, won't come up to me and say mum but when he's hurt or upset he shouts on me,
If you ask him him to shout in his cousin he attends and he attempts at dad, he most shakes his head to no and nods for yes.

He can take instructions such as
Where your
Eyes ears nose etc
Where yours shoes
Bring me your coat

He's a social boy he's likes to play with other children, he constantly moans and cries and clingy to begin with when we're at home when his friends come over but at play group he'll run off to go play immediately with no issues.

Because he's a very moaning child he moans and cries all the time I personally think it's because he is struggling with speech, it's taking its toll on me

I went to my HV for support about his moaning and crying she literally gave me a textbook and told me to read it and left,
My husband is adamant he's showing signs of autism because he apparently sees traits that his older brother showed when he was younger (which I don't feel is true) I see big differences between the two kids I've been in his older brothers life since he was 2 and they two boys are like night and day to me.

Can someone please just help ease my frustrations because I know we're not medical professionals but is this just a child that is a little bit slower with verbal speech but will come when he's ready or should I be genuinely very concerned at this point. I keep trying to explain all children are different and he'll speak when he's ready but now I'm at a lost

Thank you guys xx

Thank you for baring with me for so long I'll appreciate any experiences or advice

His difficulty with speech could be a source of frustration like you suggested, he is unable to articulate what he thinks, though when speech delays are present children tend to compensate by an increase use of gestures - note that autism is not a speech disorder in the sense that some children with autism can struggle with speech while others may have advanced speech. Autism is a social communication disorder so for example not pointing to share interests (like a plane in the sky) by 18M would be very concerning.

Thank you for your reply I really appreciate it,
I am no expert on autism far and very from but I have supported people through my previous line of work and of course my step son who is severely autistic (non verbal) ,
I think the more frustration on my side is people wanting to throw there diagnoses on him to point a finger at something instead of letting him be a child and develop at his own pace. While trying to work on his communication along the way.

I guess I'm just at a bit loss and needed a vent to get it off my chest it's all starting to take it's toll on me a little now

What does the book from HV say?