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Toddler hitting

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pipiandbelle · 27/02/2020 15:46

Help!! My lovely LG who is 28 months with quite good language skills has recently started hitting. It started with the cat and now regularly will scratch, whack or pull my husband's (lovely) beard. She doesn't do it to me. In the last couple of weeks she has started doing this at play groups and rhyme times almost automatically to other children. Sometimes you can see why (they have a rattle she wants to put away after rhyme time) but other times she will just walk over to normally a younger a child and just whack them in the head. Today she pulled a little boys hair out of the blue. He wasn't doing anything obviously annoying. It normally is not aggressive and is never in a rage or out of control. We are both very calm parents and we never shout or hit at home. We have tried a few things but I'm getting really upset that it seems to be ramping up. Threee weeks ago she rarely did it and now she's doing it about three or more times per play session. Is this normal? She is our first and only so haven't been through this before. Any tips?? She is normally such a funny and clever little girl but she is getting a bad name with other mums now Sad

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SomeoneElseEntirelyNow · 27/02/2020 19:10

What discipline are you using with her for this? A sharp "no, we don't hit" and then lots of attention for the hit person and none for her for a minute or two might be effective at this age.

ColourMeExhausted · 28/02/2020 22:12

Yup, same over here! My DS is also 28 months. He's our second DC, DD is 4 and has never been a hitter. Like your DD, DS will hit for no good reason at all. He will also throw things. He does this at home and at nursery. Sadly it is his sister who bears the brunt of it and we feel so bad about this. Everyone days it is s phase but it seems to getting worse, I'm.worried we will be barred from nursery at this rate!

We have tried time out, initially on the step and now his cot as he will not stay on the step. 'Kind hands gentle hands' etc. Sharp voices. Nothing is working. He will say sorry but it doesn't mean anything, it has got to the point where he thinks it is all part of the game!

We have also tried distracting him as that was a suggestion I was given, but it doesn't work, he is hard to snap out of that mode.

Hoping someone will be along with advice for us both!

ColourMeExhausted · 28/02/2020 22:14

Just to add, it does seem to get worse when he is tired/teething. Today was a bad day so we think his molars are playing up again.

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