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DD 8 behaviour stressing me out!! Any advice please?

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Littlemiss74 · 26/02/2020 10:01

My dd has just turned 8 and her behaviour is causing me to feel really stressed and upset.

She has always been such a good child and loves to please and is very good at school. But at home she is becoming more & more challenging. She answers back, thinks she knows better than me and dh about everything, constantly argues with older ds and will not listen or do anything she doesn't want to do. She tries to tell me & dh what to do and when we tell her in no uncertain terms not to talk to us in that way she starts crying saying no-one likes her and can never ever admit she is wrong.

This morning she was blaming me as she couldn't find her school reading book, it seemed to have gone missing over half term. I was trying to get ready for work and she was crying and blaming me for it being lost when I hadn't touched it! I told her to have a good look in the playroom which was a tip and that perhaps if she tidied it up a bit she might find it. More shouting & crying at me followed. Eventually i found it under a pile of colouring books on the playroom desk. Not a word of thanks for me finding it.

Everyday we bicker as she tries to tell me what to do or corrects me. I swear if I said the sky is blue she'd say it's not!!

She can be a lovely fun little girl and very funny but this behaviour is making me feel stressed, out of control and really upset. I cried all the way to work this morning and am sat here with a banging headache.
It doesn't help that our house is a bit chaotic and we constantly seem to not be able to find things, my head is spinning.

I would really appreciate any support/advice please. Thanks

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Bunglemom · 27/02/2020 09:36

Big hugs!

I could have written this post! My nearly 8 DD is exactly the same! She is golden at school (teacher says he could have a million of her!) She is being spiteful to her sister, getting jealous over us praising her sister who is currently potty training and needs the support/praise!

last night I sat and cried with my hubby too... I feel like im constantly in this battle of wills and nothing I say or do is good enough for her... ive tried sitting her down talking about her feelings, taking her shopping just us, taking things off her to try and see but nothing seems to be working!

I think the trouble is at 8 they are still finding their feet at school/home and everything is a massive deal to them, their body is starting to change and their hormones are everywhere... they are trying to be grown up but they aren't!

Just know your not alone and we're all going through the same... I hate to say it but I think its just something we are going to have to ride out.... big hugs!

PS If you do find the magic cure please let me know!

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