am pulling my hair out

[chipkid]

does anybody else have a child who enjoys needling and tormenting other children?

My Ds, although ntohing major, always seems to create some aggro wherever we go. If he gets a negative reaction from anybody he just makes sport out of irritating them.

He is otherwise lovely and can be ver kind and sweet to others-but he is doing my head in at the minute with his antisocial behaviour!

any advice much appreciated

bump

set him bounderies before you go tell him what you expect of him and what will happen if he doesn't do it

and then find somewhere with family or someone close to put it into action so he knows you mean what you are saying

praise him alot when he has done good he'll soon realise what reaction he prefers

bubblagirl I do all of this-he is 6 and should know better but he seems unable to stop himself when he feels that he has been slighted or upset by another!

I think he is ready to go back to school as he has been off for 9 weeks

oo that must be so annoying to see, specially when he can be so nice at other times. Is it possible that you could be utterly hard-line with him about it? before you go, tell him that he's not to do this needling, and if he does it, you will leave. Tell him you'd like to see him make a big effort to be grown up and just get on and play even if someone annoys him. And if he does it, leave as promised.

I do think it's alot to do with maturity, he's only six and boys can still be so 'young' at this age; given another year of development I'm sure he'll be different; I think the kindness and sweetness will over-ride the annoying stuff given time. So long as he gets love and attention at home, which he clearly does, and gets strong boundaries NOW about this issue, I think you'll be on the road.

thankyou HG-I know he is anxious about returning to school and so he is more tricky than usual-I have had a 9 week school holiday and I think we are all at the end of our tethers with it!

God, nine weeks is a long one, isn't it! I'm sure that it's worse due to boredom, etc and being ready to go back. Good luck with it!