Touching down below

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I have name changed for this one as I know there are family and friends on here!

My 6 year old girl has recently realised that it 'feels nice' to touch herself down below. Her words!

I don't want to make her think that it is a bad thing to do or make too much of a deal about it, but obviously there is a time and a place! I just wondered what other parents have done and if it sounds ok what I have said?

I have told her that it is fine to do it but she must be in complete privacy, so generally in her bedroom. Never in front of anybody, never in school or in public... and if at home not infront of all the family watching tv

She seems to have accepted this and has stopped mostly so I assume she is just doing it when she's in her room. But she has started asking to go to her room specifically to do it when we have reminded her stop it infront of people.

I've reiterated that it's not a big deal and it's fine to do it, but she can't go to her room all the time specifically to do it.

I don't know, am I contradicting myself? I'm very conscious of promoting a healthy attitude to her body and privacy without it becoming an obsession?

I think you're taking the right approach. It's a new thing and probably less than boys. Every boy i babysat for when i was young from three years old would walk around holding their willy especially at bed time seeminhly as a comforter. but they stop doing it in public eventually! You can also combine it with the Pants are private stuff about strangers as well. I would let her go to her room the novelty will probably wear off soon.

Thank you!

She’s discovered that masturbation feels good which is perfectly natural and is listening to the sensible rule to masturbate in private. Don’t overthink it, everything is fine.

Personally I would name the activity as masturbation so that she knows.

I don't think the novelty will wear off soon at all, but it'll certainly reach new heights when she becomes a teenager.