Evening everyone. I did write a thread but for some reason it just wouldn't upload. But anyway. I'll try and summarise this as best I can. Here goes....
So my 9 yo is a very bright and intelligent young girl. She was a dream as a baby. Slept through very quick. Easy to get in a routine. Easily pleased and hardly ever cried. When she started school they brought to my attention that she has ocd tendencies. Likes things in either colour order or size order. Has to have things done a certain way otherwise cue meltdown. Even down to what wayy handle on the mop bucket was. I changed the mop bucket in the end. Anyways fast forward to the last 12 months she has gotten more and more difficult.
She has an attitude to boot which yes I get kids that age will try but it's not how she says things it's what she says. She can be really horrible and nasty to the point where yesterday she drove me to tears. She has seen me cry once in 9 years previous to this time but I didn't know what else I could do to get through to her. School have picked up she has a lack of or no empathy towards others. She is obsessed with her brother to the point she will stop others going near him but will also have a go and say I give the baby all the attention. It has been explained a baby has needs they can't tend to like she can. She almost comes across as selfish and ungrateful. She shows emotion for all the wrong reasons and yet when you would expect emotions to be shown she's just blank. This is just some off the top of my head but will happily give more info if needed.
Her stepmum who works in mental health asked me today if I had thought about getting her assessed because she said she has symptoms of add/adhd and autism. I said I had but wouldn't have a clue on how to say this to the gp.
I've sat and pondered most of the night and I think I will make an appt to speak to the doctor. Or will I be best speaking to the school. I have no experience or knowledge of autism or add/adhd. I've done minimal research and yes she does fit alot of them all but I'm just afraid that I won't be listened to.
It has been a very difficult year for us all. I have even gone on a parent course with barnados in the hope to understand her better because she never expresses herself or says how she is feeling. She just reacts. Now if there is a reason behind it I want nothing more than to help her the best way I can. I guess I'm just after advice/handhold with this and were I should go from here.
Thank you for reading and if you need any more information please just ask. I just didn't want to go on and on.