Consequenes for poor behaviour - ideas please!

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What consequenes do you give your DC for poor behaviour? Just looking for some ideas, as talking to my DC (7 & 9) about their behaviour and asking them to do better is having little effect at the moment...

Can you give us an example of something they’ve done?

The consequence should be relevant to the behaviour,
So,if you ask them to come off the screen and they don't say something like. "You've got 3 minutes to come off the iPad, if you do not then there will be a consequence, lose privileges of using iPad for 3 days or something, then say. It's your choice, if they fail to do it, calmly say you made a bad choice so you'll lose iPad for 3 days. This method has really helped with my (naughty and stubborn) 7 year old

@ JiltedJohnsJulie
e.g. Picking threads on a blazer, making holes.

Hard to give a consequence relevant to the behaviour in this case, I think.

Most important is that the consequence is RELEVANT to the behaviour. Eg; If they won't put their things away then it's reasonable to remove the toys they've left out for a few days but probably not very helpful to tell them they can't have any chocolate today as that's not connected at all and their young brains will struggle to make the connection as easily and realise that they're responsible for the choices they make which is ultimately what you're aiming for. Making holes in their blazers is a tricky one but I would say there's 2 reasonable courses of action.... 1) they don't get a new blazer until a reasonable length of wear and tear time has passed and have to tolerate having a torn blazer (they may not care and.this is their choice) or 2) if they get allowance then money from this is deducted until you've been able to fund a replacement.

A book called the whole brained child is pretty good and a simple quick read. Sure others will recommend other resources too. Good luck xx

When I was 8 and chewed a hole in my jumper to stick my thumb through (as was the vogue on the playground) my mother gave me a needle and thread and made me fix it. Perhaps try that? Not a punishment, but a consequence of my action, fix what you break, tidy your mess, etx.

Do they have pocket money? Make them pay for a replacement