Hi everyone, first time poster as I didn’t know where else to turn to. I’m 25, raising my 13 year old sister alone. It feels really isolating and lonely sometimes, especially when I’m in a situation I don’t know how to handle. So my sister hangs out with 15 year old boys, they seem to light fires, text/Snapchat sexual things (as far as I know nothing has physically happened), hang out from end of school until 10pm and just act like they are entitled and they are doing nothing wrong. I’ve expressed to my sister that she needs to hang out with better people (but get accused of being controlling and don’t want her to have any friends), I’ve asked her to watch what she writes on social media and text (and she becomes violent because I have looked at her phone and am not giving her privacy) I just can’t win. I’m trying to guide her, I don’t get upset, I don’t fight back, I am pretty calm most of the time and I don’t shame her for anything. But if I take her phone away I end up with spit so thick in my hair that I need 2 shampoos. I don’t know how to handle any of this. She’s already in therapy. I’ve tried to get help for myself, unfortunately no doctor is taking me seriously (I’ve seen 3 for a referral). How do I make her see there are consequences for her actions? Thank you all so much.
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