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My daughter has just turned one, she is fine about being away from me if grandparents/aunty has her but at the childminders she has major separation anxiety. Never used to until about a month ago. It's got to the stage where the doorbell goes and she runs to the door as she knows they're going that way.

She has also now started to push other kids/babies off childminders knees and getting frustrated and annoyed at this.

I'm a first time mum, is this normal for this age? Childminder says she's hitting well above her development targets and is in the 20-36 month old area on some things. Anyone have any experience/advice ?

Hiya my daughter was very similar at that age, I went back to work and put her in a nursery and she went from a super confident, happy baby to a clingy wreck to the point where the nursery asked me to remove her and find somewhere else for her to go, they also told me that it was my fault for not socialising her enough so I think it was a blessing in disguise in the end Anywho I put her with a childminder instead and her behaviour started to calm down, she did push other children but that's pretty age appropriate behaviour I just talked about gentle hands etc and it came right on its own xx

Thank you for your reply, I'm glad it's just a phase. My daughter went to classes four times a week before starting child minders and still attends once a week plus swimming with other kids so I'm hoping that it passes quickly.

Very normal.

I used to nanny two 1yos. I had them separately, but also I used to volunteer at a creche where sometimes I had them both.
The number of times I ended up sitting there with one on each knee , with my knees as far away as possible with them glaring at each other. If any other child sat on my knee, they'd both come running over as soon as they saw.
They did cooperate once when another child plopped themselves between them.

Strangely, neither behaved like that with their own mum, and none of mine ever behaved like that with me.

Yeah exactly that, my daughter doesn't do it with me, husband or my family just the childminder and her husband. She is going through separation anxiety at the moment but not to the extent of the childminders. Just hope it passes sooner rather than later

Is there anything that my childminder can do to ease the situation?