5 year old talking at school

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My ds is 5 and in year 1. He is being put on the storm cloud at least once a week or on the cloud 1/2 times a week for talking at school. He is a bright lovely boy and it is so frustrating to hear about it. I have tried punishing at home by taking favourite toys away etc for being on the storm cloud. I have also tried chatting and reminded he must ignore other children and not talk when he shouldn't etc and that the cloud is before storm cloud so he should learn from that. Any other tips? Should I just let school deal in house? He misses 5 minutes of golden time at school on a Friday for each time he is on the storm cloud so up to 20 minutes so should I take that as the punishment? I am concerned that he will begin to be seen as naughty rather than the l0vely boy that he is.

Hiya,

Have you tried talking to the teacher to find out exactly what is happening? Is he hanging around with a group of lively boys? Laughing at jokes whilst the teacher is talking? Is he over enthusiastic and not waiting his turn and talking over people?

I would not punish him at home too...being on the storm cloud and missing golden time I think is enough of a punishment. It might seem like a double punishment.

Have you asked him why he is doing this? What does he say xx

I wouldn’t add an extra punishment at home. Firstly, it is being managed at school, Secondly, a punishment well after the fact is not that effective.

Have you asked the teacher what they think? A couple of punishments doesn’t mean they have a negative opinion of him, just that he has a behaviour that needs training and they are on it.

Awww this makes me a bit sad that a 5 yr old is being punished for talking. He's only 5 and if he's anything like me 5 yr old will find it near impossible to not speak all his thoughts.

I'm in Scotland and our school doesn't have any of the golden time stuff. It's also very play based for the first two years. I guess what I'm trying to say is I don't think it's a massive deal and he'll probably get better as he grows up. School are setting expectations (too high possibly) and I would leave it to them to deal with.

I used to get told off all the time for chatting. I got good exam results, went to University, got a great job after.