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Breakup and DS soiling himself

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happyfrog1 · 28/01/2020 19:32

My six year old keeps defecating himself, after months of being potty trained. His father and I are in the (months long) process of separating so I'm pretty sure it's to do with this. ds is currently living mostly with me in the family home. I have a new bf who has met a couple of times, but knows only as my friend. His dad and he are close and I think he misses him a lot but still sees him - twice a week at the moment, and overnight - but that will eventually be joint custody. ds doesn't like 'emotional' conversations, so it's hard to find out exactly what is going on, and I suspect he doesn't understand himself. Tonight I was angry with him, because he did it twice, within an hour, ruining his clothes, needing two baths...I'm sure that isn't the right approach and I feel very guilty about it. Any advice appreciated.

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ReallyLilyReally · 28/01/2020 20:26

I'd speak to your GP about getting him counselling if i were you. Did he have issues leading to delayed potty training? Six seems pretty late if there's nothing else going on. Could you go back to the routines/techniques you used the first time round?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 28/01/2020 20:26

I can understand you being upset OP, but you're probably right about it not helping.

I've got no experience of this sorry but just wondered if the school may be able to offer him sone support?

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