8 month old Nursery

[Babs5693]

Hi all, I’ve been taking my DD to Nursery for the past few weeks for an hour to get used to the environment and staff, my daughter since 4 months old has been very cling and won’t go to anyone but me and her Dad. Today I left her for 10 minutes with the staff to see how she would get on and she cried uncontrollably, it is heartbreaking, I cried all the way home. She will be going 3 days a week and I have no option but to send her. Our son goes to the Nursery and he was the same, they both seem to have extreme separation anxiety, the staff are fantastic and couldn’t do enough for our son. I feel like a rubbish mum! Not sure why I’ve posted this just needed somewhere to put my feelings down I guess x

No advice but just want to say I am in the exact same boat!
DD 9 months is very much attached to me and I haven’t needed to leave her since she was born.
We’ve done 2 sessions at nursery where I left her and staff have said she has a few tears on/off which breaks my heart but I have to go back to work and have no other choice ☹️
I keep telling myself in a few weeks time when she’s settled in I’ll forget how much I’m hating leaving her at the min. I feel for you x

You poor thing. It must be awful. I'm having similar concerns about my 21MO who is just starting CMs and pretty much upset for most of the time she is there If you have to RTW then you have to. It's life. However my advice would be to really try and guage what the nursery are going to do about it? Are they going to give plenty of cuddles and work on making that bond with her or are they just going to leave her to cry? Are they trying to manage too many babys or are there a lot of almost 2 year olds in the room that are going to take up all their time and attention? She needs as much love and reassurance from the nursery as she can get to help her settle. If they don't take that seriously then I'd look elsewhere. If they do then you're doing everything that you can do to help your baby with this and she WILL get used to it. All you can do is choose someone you trust to look after her and give her lots of cuddles and reassurance when you return to make up for it. She's not the first and won't be the last. She will be fine. Good luck xx

Thank you for your posts, the Nursery she is going to are amazing, as soon as babies can walk they move them to a different room so they can focus on pre walkers, also they are quiet at the moment so my DD will pretty much get one on one, they give lots of kisses and cuddles which I love. I am leaving her in the best possible hands that I know but it’s when she cries for me and as her mum I should be there to comfort her, I feel so guilty and as she’s so young I can’t explain to her why nor does she understand that I will be back. It’s so hard x

That sounds amazing and like she's in good hands. It's tough for sure. hugs but she'll adjust to it and it'll get better x