Laughter 2yo

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Just wanted to ask a question. Or gain your input. So hubby is off work sick still and so 2yo little boy sees equal amounts of us both. He does still take me around by the hand, gets excited when I come back if I’ve been out alone etc and wants to be with me, but I have to put so much work into making him laugh and really try whereas Hubby can do it in seconds?!

Anyone

This is the second thread ive seen from you worried about this and i think you need to stop worrying about it. Your kid loves you. He just finds his daddy funny. I don't find my mum funny at all, but i love her endlessly.

DS is nearly 2 and one of the things I love is how easily my DH can make him properly laugh. He finds DH funnier than me but definitely loves us both and there are other things I’m ‘better’ at than DH.

If your DS finds your DH funny while not finding you funny (or finding you more serious) why would that be concerning?...

Cos i don't him to think I'm boring

What makes you think he's bored,? Are you doing enough to stimulate him during the day, activities, exercise, groups etc? Could you put him in nursery a few hours a week to give him some extra socialising time if you're worried?

My OH gets my little one to laugh way more than me but I’m still the favourite (sorry I am). However I’ve taken to doing fake farts when I’m in the shower and she’s in the bath. Works a treat so I’d recommend it. Now we’re both doing it laughing our heads off. OH hates it. Haha.

The problem here is that you are thinking too much about you and your need to be loved and appreciated by your tiny son.

Start thinking about it from his point of view instead. What do you think will be best and nicest for him as he grows- to have a mum who is constantly worrying in case he loves somebody else more than her or a mum who is just there, loving and dependable through thick and thin?

It is not his job to make you feel loved, it is your job to make him feel loved.

Do you want to be the mum who is generous enough to enjoy seeing him loved and loving people around him (including one day his girlfriend or boyfriend) or do you want to be the mum who secretly resents any love that isn't to do with you?

You're at the risk of seeming "needy" tbh, in my experience kids always find dads funny and it's a bit worrying that you've spent so much time trying to compete with this. Just because he finds his dad hilarious doesn't mean he finds you boring but if you keep stressing about it and trying too hard you run the risk of him picking up on your desperation (I know it's not a good word but I can't think of another). Just relax and enjoy your time together and he will enjoy it too.