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Do I send him to his dad?

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Ashxrenz1 · 20/01/2020 13:26

So my son is 11 and struggled for many years with his attitude, he likes to be alone and classes himself as a adult. That past few weeks his attitude has got worse, he has been refusing to go school, do his homework, throwing letters away so I cant read them, constant attitude and trys to bring my mood down. He goes to his dads every weekend but his dad sings off a different hymn sheet to me, and says hes depressed and in himself and acts like no one likes him. Hes been referred to camhs but they don't see a problem. He has a SEN worker at school, I just feel like everything I try to do isn't working. His dad said he will have him full time, although I think he is just saying this. It sounds awful but I dont enjoy doing things with him as he always is negative about everything and everyone and has a negative opinion on everything anywhere we go. Do i send him to his dads and see if he realises? But then if he lives at his dads and becomes a better child. And I see him 2/3 times a week, am I a bad mother?

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minisoksmakehardwork · 20/01/2020 17:34

Is he at secondary school or primary? Tbh I would be asking the school to do all the referrals for assessment by a pediatrician. Speak to the school's family worker and get some help for you. The squeaky wheel gets the oil ime.

Ashxrenz1 · 20/01/2020 19:28

He is in his last year at primary, school have re-refered him to camhs for the 3rd time, he has been to a place called Thrive which is to help with his emotional health and wellbeing, school do help, he said that all the teachers shout at him and dislike him which makes him feel depressed and like he doesn't want to be here. It's so upsetting and worrying, I with there was a book on parenting.

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ReallyLilyReally · 20/01/2020 20:14

Do you have the funds to pay for private family counselling?

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