As the "other mum", what would you think?

[binkie]

Ds's lovely teacher (he's yr 1) has just called to say she's had a letter from another mother to say that her son (diffident & gentle type) came home from school on Monday with a bruise & possibly also a cut inflicted by a kick from my ds. Teacher says other mother's motive in writing was much more to ask for her son to be encouraged to speak up than complaining about mine - but fact is my ds has hurt hers & I feel dreadful.

It so happens, and it's probably entirely relevant, that my ds very much likes this other boy and would in his not yet very adept way like to be friends. Is it mad of me (or a breach of confidence) to think of calling the other mother to say sorry and to ask that her ds come for a playdate? Will she think it completely inappropriate? If you were her, what would you say?

I'd say yes and come around in a flash, if I were the other mum.

Binkie - yes I am sure this would make you both feel better. My dd has been bullied by another little girl and if the mum suggested this I would accept

I think I would want to come with him first and check you and your DS out.

Presumably the teacher wasn't breaking a confidence in telling you? The other mother just said she wasn't complaining, not that you shouldn't be informed? If so then I think an apology and very tentative invite, explaining that your DS really does like hers, should be OK.

I once wrote a note to another mum and she is now a big pal of mine!
as it was she was really cool about it as her ds1( this was ds2) had been a bruiser

I'd be very willing to try and help them sort it out and be grateful for the invite and the apology.

OK, since you were all unanimous I have done it - only got their answering machine, so probably have sounded like even more of a loon. Well I suppose it gives them the chance to think over the playdate idea rather than being put on the spot.

Lots of thanks for the support.

Hope it goes well for you. I think people understand these things.