DS1 (2.8) mad about dummy esp since DS2 was born...

[Pannacotta]

DS1 has always had a dummy at nap times and at bedtime, but now he won't give it up when he gets up in the morning or after his afternoon nap and seems to be chewing on his dummy for most of the day (or trying to if I have taken it away). It seems to be much worse since DS2 was born, but I am starting to find it annoying as it can be hard to understand him when he talks and I don't like him shrieking for his dummy all the time.
Is he likely to give it up soon of his own accord or are there any good/easy ways of weaning him off it?
Any advice very welcome, thanks....

It is def worth encouraging him to drop it when he talks as it can hold up speach development. Is there a new baby on the way in the arae which he can be enoucraged to give it too? This worked for one of our neighbours.

I was just going to post the same question, although DS2 doesn't have any new siblings he is now 21months and use to be happy leaving it in the cot when getting up, since can get up stairs goes to cot to get it out along with a muslin which he also now drags round with him. He now screams and whinges until i give it, last 90mins this morning and then his older brother gave in. Since I started to try and take it back a bit he is more possesive about it.

I think when DS1 starts school I have an option to go cold turkey and take dummies away completely, I had thought of letting him grow out of it and reward him when he ready to get rid of it or I could just accept it and wait for him to drop it.

I think DS1 would have a complete and utter hissy fit if we tried to go cold turkey!
He is def worse since DS2 came along 3 months ago but I really dont know how to break the habit, I hate seeing his dummy hanging out of his mouth (bit like a cigarette). Can anyone help us here?

We're in the same position with dd1 who is 27 months. Dd2 is 5 months though it was bad before she came along too. No advice as I struggle too especially since she doesn't have an afternoon nap anymore, but is shattered she needs her dummie. I do take it off her now for classes/playdates or when"people will see it" as I say to her but the thought of cold turkey brings ME out in a sweat!

why does he have to ditch it now - from what I can gather he seems to be using it as a bit of security. He has had a major upheaval with the addition of the new baby - I would leave him be for a while until he felt a little more secure.

My dd2 was a big dummy girl - then dd3 came along and she seemed to want it more and more. I let her have it for the first few months that dd3 was here. Then we talked about her being a big girl, big sister etc. We built it up for a week and said on the Saturday we would be giving the dummy to another little baby girl whose mum and dad could not get her a dummy. So I went out and bought her a cuddly toy to substitute for the dummy. Come saturday night we talked about giving the dummy up and gave her the cuddly dog for her to cuddle to sleep. We had a couple of upset nights - crying before she went to sleep but she cuddled her new toy and within a few days never looked back. When she asked for it we would remind her where it was. I think she was probably at the age where she understood better too. Now she takes all manner of cuddly toys or dolls to bed but does not look for her dummy.

As to the speech - I just told her mummy could not understand and she needed to take the dummy out of her mouth before she spoke.

Dd2 was about 2 1/2 when she gave it up.

When you are ready just go for it, go cold turkey. I agree that may be you should wait a little longer as he obviously needs some comfort right now and to remove it too soon could make things very hard. I know that every parenting book would say no but may be get them a special new teddy to take to bed as a comforting toy as a replacement and to indicate that he is a big boy now and doesn't need a babies dummy and can have his own special teddy now that he is a big boy.

My dd gave up hers at 15 months and she was obssessed with it. I just threw every single dummy I could find in the bin (make sure you check inconspicuous places litle under their bed) and weathered the complaints. I was dreading it and thought it would be awful but within 2 days she had forgotten it and to be honest she didn't moan anywhere near as much as I thought she might.

I appreciate that my dd was quite a lot younger and it might be harder but in my case, it wasn't anywhere near as bad as I thought.

I am expecting baby number 2 soon and I will not buy any dummies this time (she says with everything crossed!)

At the very least I think insisting that your little one takes the dummy out of their mouths to talk is a good idea - children hate nothing more than not being listened to and it might be a way of weaning them off.

Does your new baby have a dummy - if so that might complicate things unless you get them both off them at the same time.

Good luck!

We had a similar thing DD was 2 when DS was born and got even more attached to her dummy. I let her have it and then after 6 months I tried to get rid of it by leaving it for santa etc. It didnt work and she was hysterical so she had them back.
In the end I cut 1/4 of the teat off every one and then after a few days cut some more off until in the end there was only half a teat left on the dummy and she said ' these are all broken' and I replied 'well we'll have to throw them away now then' and she did and hasnt had one since.

I think for us doing it this way meant that it was so gradual in the end she made up her own mind not to have them as they werent as enjoyable as before.