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Cot to bed, saying goodbye to dummy - too much too soon?

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stripeybumpsmum · 28/08/2007 19:48

Hi, interested in your opinions and experiences.

DS1 is 19 months. DC2 due in a couple of months. DS1 has moved from nursery into own new room, albeit in his cot salongside bed for now. Takes his daytime naps at nursery on a low bed, which he is fine with. The 'big bed' he has is one of those with the pull out bit underneath (to make a double). We are going away this weekend, and know that hotel room has a fold out sofa bed designed for children. We are thinking let him sleep on the sofa bed and then come home to sleep in the pull out bit of his new bed (he inconveniently has realised bed guards in the normal bed part make really good handles to use said bed as a trampoline). Really need the cot for DC when born, and I'd rather there is a gap between moving DS1 out and baby in if that makes sense.

Plus, he currently has one bottle of milk a day, at night. I think we haven't moved to a cup more out of laziness (on my part - I really love being able to baby him a bit at the end of the day). We've been talking about getting a special cup just for milk at night and he's quite keen on that.

Lastly, he still has a dummy just to fall asleep with. Only allowed in the cot, and tbh he's never bothered about it if he wakes up without it. We thought we could work up to loosing it by letting santa take it in return for a special present.

All too much too soon? My mum thinks I am being a bit harsh about the bottle/dummy.

Ideas? Comments?

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GodzillasBumcheek · 28/08/2007 19:51

Dunno about the bed. Too long since my older dds were that age! But the present-dummy exchange sounds like a good idea, i'd go for that!

HonoriaGlossop · 28/08/2007 20:14

If this was me I'd let him keep the night time bottle and the dummy. Neither sound to be a problem and they could be good comforters when the world is turned upside down for him by the new baby!

My ds had his nightime drink in a bottle till he was over two and I agree, he and I both loved that little bit of baby-ing just at bedtime.

I would move him to the bed asap though, i think you're right that it's best to do that soon.

Othersideofthechannel · 28/08/2007 20:15

All too much too soon depends how adaptable he is.
DD was in a bed from age 19 months because she was a climber and could climb out of the cot anyway so I thought a low bed was safer.

She was born when DS was 21 months so same age gap you will have. We didn't think ahead like you did so she slept in a moses basket for a several months and we moved DS to a bed well after she was born but before she needed the cot to avoid him feeling pushed out.

scattyspice · 28/08/2007 20:17

Ds went into toddler bed at 19mnths (DD born at 20mnths)he loved it as he could get up whenever he wanted (GRR).

Took ages to get rid of bottle for milk (about 2)as he was v resistent and I didn't want to push it.

3sEnough · 28/08/2007 20:17

My dd2 still has a bottle at night....ahem....she's now 2 1/2 and adores it. It's the only thing that's babyish about her - she keeps up with her two older siblings - I'm delighted that she still has one!

mangojuice · 28/08/2007 20:27

We made several changes to my dd's routine around the same time. We were worried how she would take them, but were guided by her and all was fine. In the space of a month we moved her to big bed and put her brother into her cot, potty trained her and dropped her final bottle. She was fine with all of these (I think she was puzzled that we looked so anxious around her) but there is no way she will give up her dummy!!

If he's OK with the bed this weekend I'd just go for it at home.

seeker · 28/08/2007 20:33

I'd let her keep her bottle and her dummy - what harm will they do? And he'll probably regress abit when the baby comes anyway. let him keep his comforting familiar things. My ds had a dummy and a bottle at bed time til he was nearly 4 - when he gave them up of his own accord with no stress on either side.

Concentrate on the cot thing and leave the others.

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stripeybumpsmum · 29/08/2007 19:18

Fab, thanks all.

Agree cot is priority so I am gong to concentrate on that.

We didn't plan to use a dummy for DS1 but these things do happen - on second thoughts, trying to get rid of DS1 dummy two months after arival of his sibling who may use dummy is prob asking for trouble.

I am more reluctant to give up his night time bottle than he is - and as you say, quite likely to regress a bit so happy to baby him a bit longer.

Thanks for all the advice, much appreciated.

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cheechymunchy · 29/08/2007 19:23

God, my DS is 2 1/2 and I hadn't even considered moving him from bottle to cup before bedtime/first thing in morning. Eeeek...just got me thinking now as there's another on the way in March, he's only just moved to big bed and isn't potty trained either. I've better get my swerve on (dashes to self-help books for toddlers)

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