2 year old giving guests shoes to get them to leave!

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So, I have an adorable and very geeky 2 year old DS. He is full of quirks and I think maybe has mild ASD (spoken to preschool, being referred this coming term, a fair number of social/sensory traits) He had never waved until very recently (a couple of weeks ago, I almost cried with joy!) and usually would just close the door in someone’s face if they were leaving

There are not many people he has a good bond with, but he loves his nanny (my DM) and wants her to cuddle him etc. She comes round every Tuesday morning and leave just after lunch so he can have his nap. He’s a creature of habit and can get grouchy without it so that’s just how it’s always been.

Today we were chatting and she ended up staying a bit later than normal, he cheerfully went into the hall, grabbed her boots, brought them in the living room and said “dere go” proudly! He then proceeded the go back out and get here bag and bring it to her. When we sat there laughing and joking that she had obviously outstayed her welcome as he stood there rubbing his eyes he then took her hand and tried to drag her to the door!

When she did get ready and was leaving i asked him to come say goodbye and wave to nanny and he wouldn’t, just kept trying to close the door As soon as she left he grabbed his teddy and was waiting to go up to bed! It isn’t uncommon for him to stand at the bottom of the stairs when he wants his nap, but he has never done that!

Has anyone else experienced similar with their LO?! Or is he just extra demanding and set in his ways? (His nap was only 30m late so not massive given we had company)

It was very funny though

Cheeky not geeky! Lol

Toddlers thrive with routine, and by 2YRs old are very aware of the daily routine and will go through the motions of it, i.e. a child waking up might get out of bed, and pick up her slippers or bib (anticipating that breakfast is coming), after breakfast they might get their shoes anticipating that it's time for nursery, etc. If you son is in the ASD pathway it is possible that this routine is even more important to them and will conform strictly to it, so if he is tired, in his mind he is unable to go to bed until his nanny leaves, i.e. nap time can only ever happen after his nanny leaves and never the other way round (strict routines and rigidness/resistance to changing them is common in autism).

He is very much used to his routine, it’s almost somewhat problematic at the weekend because I’m a SAHM and we have the same pattern every day but at the weekend daddy is home and throws it out of whack so he thinks we’re going out when we’re not/is harder to get down and then gets very touchy by the end of the day he’s always been that way, we had to plan around his naps or he - and therefore we, would really struggle (which sometimes was hard for people to fully understand as his cousin is so much more easy going.)

But I suppose he just too me aback a bit today because it’s the first time he’s enforced it like that, but as both my mum and I know how we can be at times no one was offended thankfully! Whether or not he does get diagnosed, he can be so random at times, it’s adorable