PLEASE HELP am i doing the right thing dummys bottles temper tantrums

[xxxxlaura17xxxxx]

my little girl is 17 months old i took her bottle away from her around 2 weeks ago she only had blackcurrant juice in it but when she was hungry i made her a meal and instead of eating her food she would sit and drink a bottle of juice and then just leave her food so i decide to get her a tommee tipee cup she now eats her meals and has drinks when she is thirsty but now she wants her dummy all the time she never really had her dummy only when she went to sleep but all she says is mia ( i don't no why where she has learnt mia from but she calls it that away LOL) even when shes just woke up. She also has started have really bad temper tantrums she did used to moan before but not like she does now she throws her self on the floor and continusely bangs her head and screams and crys when she starts i just walk away from her if shes in my arms i just lay her down then walk away and wait for her to carm down just wondering if i am doing the right thing ? or if anybody has had simlar or same problems. this afternoon she was throwing her self on the floor doing her paddy again over her mia so i said to my mum that we should try only giving her the dummy at nightime when shes tired and hide them during the day cause she seem to ask for a mia and when she doesnt get one she throws a paddy so we started it this afternoon when she asked for mia we just said wow look at that trying to take her mind off it she still moaned and kept asking for one so tonight i was planning to give her one but she was quite tired so i laid her in bed and she found a dummy but i quickly distracted her and got it away and layed with her for about 30 minutes so only around 15 minutes longer than i usually do and she went to sleep. am i doing the right thing on this and do you think i should take it away all together? my mum bought her a dora the explorer cushion around 3 months ago and she loves it and takes it to bed and carrys it around the house during the day with her for a comfort so i think that distracted her abit as well has anybody any ideas on what i could give her to take her mind off wanting a mia
im so sorry for the really long post please help
laura x

It sounds like your doing the right thing. Toddlers do like to assert themselves and get what they want so tantrums are pretty normal. My dd is the same with tantrums (she is 19mths) Although things have dramatically improved since her vocabulary has increased.
The gentle option is to let her have the dummy at night, the other option is cold turkey with complete removal of all dummies. This seems harsh but if she knows its there at night then she will remember about it during the day and wants it. If she doesn't have it at all she may have a few bad days but then it will be forgotton.