Hi mums
I’m in real need of some advice. I’m a single mum, My youngest son is 2 in March and he’s a handful to say the least.
He’s aggressive, throws himself on the floor constant screaming, hitting, bangs his head, pulls his hair out. These come in “episodes” (tantrums, paddy, whatever you want to call them) around 20+ a day, if you even look at him and he doesn’t want you to, tell him no, put his shoes on etc. he has one of these “episodes” it has escalated it was happening mainly around just me at home it’s now when we’re out shopping, walks, parks around friends/ family.
I feel like I completely failing as a mother. When I know he’s getting mad or frustrated I try quickly to distract him but it hardly works, when I pick him up he just hits me, pulls my hair and wails about in my arms. Last resort is just to make sure he’s lay on the floor with nothing around him that he can hurt himself.
I have a 6yr old and it’s tough on him not having hardly attention because I feel like I’m
Constantly focused on my youngest. And my youngest is so jealous if my 6yr old wants a cuddle he’s hit him away or tries to push him away from me. Obviously I tell him firmly no and that I’m mummy to his brother as well.
I have no support network and have never even had a babysitter for him in his life as my only means is my mother who says he's too much for her :( his dad also lives 4hrs away and rarely sees him and has never had him on his own.
He recently started nursery 1 day a week whilst I'm at college which is the first break I've ever had and truth be told it's bliss not to have a headache for that day. He doesn't sleep solid through the night as he wakes screaming and shouting throughout which also wakes my 6yr old up so then I have both of them awake and I'm back and forth to their rooms.
I used to love being a mum and my heart breaks to even say but I feel like my youngest has taken that away I dread everyday. I am failing and honestly don't know what to do!! I am open to any suggestions to try and help!! I am completely drained emotionally and physically.