Is this an appropriate 5 year old response?

[Confusedmum1511]

DS1 is 5 will call him O
DS2 is 2 will call him L

I'm having lots of issues with O but can't work out if it's me expecting too much or not. Tonight's scenario

For instance

L had just projectile vomited. Visibly covered in it and was screaming upset.

O demanded something. I asked him to hold on whilst I sorted L.

He carried on demanding what he wanted. I told him to wait until I had finished as L was upset and needed cleaning up. O carried on demanding further.

Eventually put O in his bath to distract him whilst I sorted L. Immediately upon getting out started making more demands despite L still sobbing in my arms. Kept reiterating that O needed to wait.

There was zero acknowledgement of anything I said to them throughout the entire exchanges, O completely disregarded my words, the fact L was obviously distraught and thst L was also covered in vomit.

Should O have recognised that it wasn't the time or even responded to anything I had said properly or am I expecting too much?

Hiya lovely! Sounds like a pretty bad event, hope L is okay! Vomit is the worst and it's horrible when they just do it everywhere .

My DD2 is a little bit like that despite the fact she's only nearly three. She sees I'm busy with the triplets, three months old, but still demands for drinks and food and if I have to tell her to hold on, she just goes and helps herself and ends up making a giant mess!

I wouldn't be too worried about it, O is only five and he has time to understand what he did wrong. Maybe talk to him tomorrow and just explain that you're only one person and can only do one thing at a time, but maybe try and relate it to him by using his toys as an example so he understands? I usually tell mine that I'm one person taking care of six kids and I can only do so many things at once and she listens to me for two days and then forgets again, but she is only two and I'm not expecting too much from her right now, especially with all the new changes at this time of year and the new routines with the triplets!

Hope it all goes well and you all have a wonderful christmas!xx

Normal.
He is the priority in his world (many do not grow out of this). is upset that you are not prioritising him too.

Try and find ways of rewarding patience.

I don't think it is normal in my experience. My DS5 would have done the demanding part, totally oblivious to what was going on, but would have acknowledged my response, even if he didn't like it. He may have then kept on demanding if he was playing up, but there would have been some acknowledgment that I'd responded to him.