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My 2yo ds is a monster

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TW · 28/09/2004 18:46

Child #3 is now 29mths (ie he will be 2.5 next mth) and his behaviour is really upsetting me. He is essentially a nice and very loving child, and his worst behaviour happens when he is at nursery, a day and a half a week. I think it is partly because he is bright - his speech is exceptionally good for his age - and he needs more stimulation. He is a room for 18mths - 3yrs. Today he kicked a baby (albeit quite a big one) in the head, thankfully he was wearing soft shoes.
Until recently they have dealt in a perfectly acceptable way with him, ie putting him on a naughty chair, but I think he loves this (he smiles when told off) because although he is temporarily isolated, he has one on one attention while he is put there and when retrieved. What I have started doing, and asked them to do, is not to give him this attention. Yes, he should be told that his behavious is not acceptable, but then he needs to be really diverted and really stimulated. He wants to have sophisticated conversations. Oh I could go on for ever. He gets so angry with me if I can't give him what he needs, which with a 6yo and a 4yo as well is often the case.
What do I do?
I feel quite strongly that I should take him out of nursery, for the sake of the other children (and the staff, he spat in one's face the other day, and frequently kicks them), although, believe it or not he loves it there.
Anyone else been through a phase like this and how on earth do you deal with it?

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stickynote · 28/09/2004 19:37

Sympathies TW. Would the nursery consider moving him up into the next room early? There's a vast difference between what an 18mth old is going to enjoy and a 2.5 year old, especially a bright one. Otherwise I think I'd be very tempted to look around at other nurseries TBH - you could potentially have another 7 months of this .

WideWebWitch · 28/09/2004 20:02

Agree, it seems obvious that it's a ploy to get attention at nursery, albeit negative attention, but you know this! He's bored then, don't you think? What do the nursery suggest? Sounds like the Mona Lisa smile Steve Biddulph talks about, i.e. pleased that it worked and got some attention. Don't necessarily take him out of nursery, just take him to a better one. 2.5yoboys are v demanding, I know. Sympathy.

TW · 28/09/2004 21:08

Hmm. I don't think there is a better one. We are quite rural and there's not all that much choice, and I actually really like them there, as does he. But when you say a better one, what do you reckon I should look for?
Which Steve Biddulph book talks about the Mona Lisa smile?!

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