10 week old routine struggle

[Narlat]

Hi all.
So 10 week old dd has no daytime routine.
Night time she's asleep normally by 10pm.. Night feed at 4 to 5 am then asleep until 10am. I'm trying to bring her bed time forward hald an hour every 4 days or so so hopefully that will help.

In the day time we have no routine at all. She refuses to nap and will be grumpy all day. We have little feeding routine due to being bf. I am now moving to bottles as I am starting to dislike breast feeding. And she will go 3 hours between 4 or 5 oz. But roots like mad, after having not finished her bottle. I can't be a dummy!!

I have tried everything..... EVERYTHING to get her to nap in the day. Last week I resorted to letting her CIO. It worked twice but I feel bad. She just fights the naps. She is very alert and was born at 42 weeks. She is a nightmare.

How in gods name do I start a daily routine. Do I force it. Do I stop feeding on demand and rota in the feeds. I'm completely lost.

I am now not going out due to her being so unpredictable and most of the time screaming cos she either wants to sleep but can't or she wants to eat or wants comfort. She is terrible for snacking on me and not taking a full feed.

I'm not having much fun with this new mum stuff.

I just want someone to say I'll take her for a week, get her In a routine then give her back. I know this is a stupid wish but I need help getting into a routine. I need routine and I need to have structure.

Any advise would be great.

Hi I have a 15 week old daughter who didn't have a routine until about 10 weeks too so I know how it feels.. I didn't mind daytime too much as she slept well at night like your daughter. I didn't actually do anything special but she somehow came up with her own routine after 10 weeks. She started wanting to sleep earlier in the evenings which really helped with her daytime routine I think. She used to go to bed at 10:30 ish but now goes to bed at 8. Sometimes wakes up for a feed at 4 ish, sometimes sleeps through until morning. She wakes up for the day between 7 - 8. I change her nappy, talk to her, play with her, do some exercises and tummy time and then feed her around 9 and hold her upright for 15-20 mins because she has reflux. Then we play again for a wee while and I put her down for a nap around 10 for her first nap. She normally needs a dummy for her daytime naps. If she's in the mood she'll fall asleep straight away and if she's not she takes a while. Her naps are between 30 mins to 1 hour nowadays. When she wakes up I do a little bit of talking and cuddling again before I feed her. And this repeats until bedtime 😊 I stopped breastfeeding when she was 7 weeks. I used to give her Aptamil which caused a lot of problems for my daughter such as excessive wind, gas and constipation and so I switched to Hipp Organic and she was a changed baby straight away. I give her 160 ml every 3 hours during the day and 180 ml before she goes to bed and 180 ml if she wakes up during the night.

Hope this helps.

Okay my son was exactly the same. He was a nightmare as a newborn! He was born at almost 42 weeks too and was incredibly alert. He stopped day napping st 8 days old 😭 I basically had to train him to nap. He was very hard work and screamed and cried most of the day.

So here's what we did. We got the Little Ones programme (Google it) which gave us a great routine to follow. We also got a book called The Blissful Baby Book but we didn't find that quite as good. This showed us the timings that worked for lots of babies and I was horrified at how much he should be napping... as he just wasn't!

I realised he would fall asleep in the pram if I used a snoozeshade and walked quickly. So thats what we did. Every hour and a half or so (2 hours max) I'd take the pram out for a spin, rain or shine, to get him to nap. It was pretty horrible as it was winter (actually this time last year... I guess our babies have similar birthdays though my son is a year older) so dark and rainy a lot. I did this every day for weeks.

Once we had him used to these nap times, we worked to get some of them done in his cot so I could have a break and maybe even a cup of tea! Thid wasnt easy. We found the first nap of the day the easiest, and the last nap of the day the hardest; in fact, we never really got him to nap.well for the 4:30pm nap and did it in the pram until he was old enough to drop it!

I was exclusively breastfeeding my son but tried to get him into a bit of a feeding routine by offering him a feed before and after every naptime (though if he seemed to want a feed in between I would never refuse!). This meant he was rarely hungry.

We also introduced a dummy. I really didn't want to as for some reason I hated them... but then a had a child and realised how useful they can be. I eventually used the dummy for all naps, and if he got upset in public when out and about as his screaming made that really tough.

Finally, it might be worth googling 'high needs' babies. My son definitely falls into this category. It's just a personality type. Many think you can't describe a baby's personality so early... but in the case of my mega alert and headstrong son, it was spot on!!

Private message me if you want any more info and good luck :)

Evening all.
So last night, no idea why, but she slept through and dropped the night feed yay!!!
But I've also gone and given in and 50/50 combo Fed today. I hate breast feeding anyway and the plan is to stop all but 1 feed (I know this is unlikely but I'm gonna try) for I have expressed and given half and half. And this is what happened.

Sat to Sun
Slept 2230 to 700
Fed boob 700 730
Feed 6 oz 0830 900
Sleep 900 940
Play nappy
Sleep 1115 1130
Feed 1140 1145 5oz
Sleep 1220 1420
Feed 1450 1500 5oz
Sleep 1600 1640
Play
Feed 1740 1800 5oz
Sleep 1845 2000
Feed 2100 2125 50z
Sleep 2140 awaiting her waking...

I'd argue she was hungry and that's why she has been so demanding and a pain in the arse but she has fired on the weight., never lost any and is on the 91st weighing 13.4 at 8 weeks!! She was born 7,11.

I have no idea if it's a fluke or if its gonna happen again but I've had a good day and for the first time in ages not cried. Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

On top of that she has been self settling which is also an improvement....
Maybe someone switched my baby last night.

I just keep telling myself it's not forever!!

I will Google the high needs.

Thanks both for your input x