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Friend’s Daughter Is A Complete Brat

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JemimaA12 · 11/12/2019 14:02

Hello, this is my first thread I have written on Mumsnet so please excuse me. I’m having real issues with my friends daughter regarding her behaviour.

I babysit her daughter as well as having mine here on a Monday evening and a Tuesday evening and her behaviour and attitude is getting worse and worse every time she’s round.

Backstory: she is an only child at home, she literally gets everything she wants, and rubs it in my daughters face, she constantly is telling my daughter what she can and can’t do, she tells her who she can and can’t play with at school (both girls are 10), we went on holiday a few weeks ago to Disney which happened to fall on friends DD’s birthday but friend insisted it her DD’s birthday week and we basically do what DD wants, my dd said to friends dd that it’s a family holiday as well not just her birthday week which friends dd didn’t like and kicked up a stink about. All week friends dd complained, she complained about the queues, even though the longest one was 30 minutes!! She complained about watching the parades and didn’t want to watch them and wasn’t happy when my dd wanted to, we had to miss out on so much as my friend booked all the meals early in the evening as dd wanted to eat all the time (she’s already overweight) and one night me and dd wanted to see the illumination but we’re unable to due to friend saying and I quote “DD doesn’t like Frozen so we can’t watch it” which my dd was a little bit sad about. Friends dd continued to make nasty comments to my daughter and friend just said “Oh poor dd (mine)”

Her behaviour is becoming more and more unbearable every time she’s round mine she never eats her dinner, she tells ME, that she’s staying until whatever time and she’s just overall incredibly rude!

Not trying to put down the child in any way or form, just need a way to deal with her when she’s around my dd! Thanks

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TheReluctantCountess · 11/12/2019 14:46

“You’re in my house, and I’m an adult, so you have to follow my rules. Thank you.”

PlutoAjder · 11/12/2019 15:42

Why are you babysitting for her?

It's clearly detrimental to your own daughter. Why haven't you put a stop to this?!?

Us there something else you're not telling us?

You don't need a way to deal with her, you need to reduce or cease this situation now, you might be worried about offending your friend but your daughter needs to come first here. Tell your friend that the two girls seem to be not close friends any more, or offer to meet in more neutral territory like a coffee shop, if that's easier, but ffs, why aren't you protecting your daughter from a child who's rude, bossy, thinks she can (and does!) tell your DD what she can and cannot do..?

You're teaching your child that it's ok to be treated badly. Step up.

simonisnotme · 12/12/2019 18:16

I would stop looking after the little cow asap
your daughter is being manipulated/bullied by her in her own home and that cannot be allowed to carry on

Rachelle1980 · 12/12/2019 19:10

Is there a reason you've let this continue beyond normal responses e.g. do you get paid to look after her daughter two evenings?
Or reciprocal babysitting on other evenings for you back (so, your daughter goes to hers twice a week)?

I must say that even if you have a reciprocal babysitting thing going, your daughter is being bullied and dictated to. Even if you're being paid you need to intervene in the situation, and put a stop to it.

Your daughter should feel like her home is a safe place where her mum hasher back!

Melrose86 · 13/12/2019 11:36

If you go on holiday together again explain that some things you will so separate. If your daughter wanted to watch the parade then you could of both watched it while the others did something else? As its important everyone gets to choose something special to do on holiday. Also try and come up with an excuse to not babysit anymore as it's not worth the stress x

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