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Adadisnotjustforchristmas · 22/11/2019 02:04

Time of writing this: 01:50
Early Morning All!

Currently awake whilst my partner is downstairs watching youtube videos with my 2.2 year old son, after him screaming the house down for the last hour or so.
Generally, his behaviour is very good (he has a good teacher in his big sister), but when it comes to bed time, he fights it, every single night, screaming and screaming until he ends up in our bed. This is also the same when he wakes in the night. More screaming, to get his own way.
The challenge we have is that I work a rotating shift pattern (Earlies, days, lates), so when I try to offer advice to Mum, she doesn't want to hear it, as I am only there 50% of the evening / nighttime routine. This usually results in a.mini argument (prior to me shutting up), as I know my son is wrapping her around his little finger.
Whenever I get up in the night with him (which is regular), and try to get him to self soothe, my partner will get up also, and find the easiest and quickest way to shut him up. More often than not, my alarm is set for 4am in the morning, and I find my son asleep next to me when I wake up.

My partner is constantly completely exhausted, having have multiple doctor's visits for consistent headaches, ringing in the ears, stress, anxiety, and the only factor I can put it all down to is lack of sleep.
I have tried previously to get my partner to read articles online about sleeping behaviours in toddlers, best practices for parents etc... However, get shut down every time as "How would I know, I'm only there 50% of the time, and she deals with this 24/7.
All I want, is for my partner and son to get a full night's sleep every night.
Any advice?

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BillHadersNewWife · 22/11/2019 02:25

After having two troublesome sleepers, my best advice is to just let him sleep in your bed.

I did this with my second child and then wondered why I hadn't with my first.

It's such a relief.

Why fight it? They want desperately to be with you...they're still practically babies at 2.

They don't stay with you forever. Mine shifted into her own room full time by the age of 6.

Sex? Do it during the day. Or in another room. That's what we did.

PlutoAjder · 23/11/2019 09:35

I don't have the same problem but there was an episode of this about a woman living in Croydon with similar tantrum sleep problems. It was available free on 4od if you want to see some troubleshooting in action?

www.channel4.com/programmes/train-your-baby-like-a-dog/on-demand/67881-001

Adadisnotjustforchristmas · 23/11/2019 14:35

Thanks very much for this!! Will encourage the watching of it tonight

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PlutoAjder · 23/11/2019 15:10

Not sure if the link will get you the specific episode. It's the one with the Croydon woman with the little daughter in a similar situation.

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