Please help, desperate and worried mum here. For the past few months me and DH are battling with DS's (15) new "hobby" - getting stoned..smoking weed and skunk! He thinks he is so cool, and most of his friends too! It drives me completely mad and makes me monstrous angry. I have zero tolerance to drugs, never tried them, don't like them and had a bad case in my family so I have seen very closely how ones life are being destroyed. Seeing DS coming home stoned its hard enough, but when he brings the stuff home I completely lose it. He is pretty stupid to think he can get away with it, or hide it, you can smell the shit from miles away! We talked to him about the whole thing endlessly, the risks.. in particular because he is also ADHD and takes medication to balance brain activity We get angry..he gets occasionally grounded if we is caught.. phone taken away.. no more pocket money..shredded his bank card and even exposed him and some of his friends by talking to their parents openly and honestly about what the kids are doing which was much appreciated. I know I sound completely hysterical but I really don't have the patience for this behaviour, we are both hard working professionals with busy lives, we do a lot for and with our kids so no space in my head and soul for letting DS burn his school years on being stoned. We pay a lot of money for his education, which we don't really have, but due to SEN we just had too. NOTHING works and what is really upsetting is how bold he is in smoking in the house sometimes when he knows perfectly well he will get caught! We even wonder if this is now border addiction but how do we know for sure? It is certainly not a daily thing, I'll say once every two weeks, and mainly on weekends as we really insist on him coming home straight from school. He suppose to be doing his homework but zero motivation. The thought of him possibly rubbing shoulders with dealers on the street, it is just too much for me with all the knife crime and stories about synthetic drugs mixed with weed which linked to psychotics. Worse of all, god knows where the money comes from?? We did catch him stealing money from the house in the past although that seems to have stopped, as not found new evidence..so what is going on?? DH is slightly more understanding as he grow up in London and was smoking himself at a similar age, but obviously worried and frustrated too. We also have a younger DC and the last thing I need is them becoming part of this stress. I suspect one of his friends as being the source (or at least one of them) and so I decided to speak to his mum but she came across as a bit weak and in complete denial. I am really concerned DS may be under pressure, he would not say a word of where he gets it from!! Did anyone have a similar experience, going through it or can offer good advice? How do we know he is safe? How do we watch for signs of addiction? What can I do to really scare him? sorry, it is so late and I am tired and realised my story is jumping all over the place but thank you for reading and leaving a comment.