Concerned about 11 week old development HELP!!

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I have a 11 week old boy and there's so many areas I'm concerned about his development.

Firstly, he does not look at me when feeding a bottle or sitting on my lap, I will consistently move my face around to be in his view but he will just move his head and eyes around looking at everything else to avoid my gaze. The only time I hold his gaze and he interacts is when he is lying down, that is either changing a nappy, laying on his doughnut-ring, laying down anywhere on his back really, he will smile at me and make sounds but never when he's sat up on my lap directly infront of me.

Secondly, he will always smile at the ceiling, walls and objects as if someone is there interacting with him, he will even laugh sometimes!!

Thirdly, he moves so much, arms, legs flapping all the time particularly when he's getting his nappy changed or when I'm talking to him laying down, compared to other babies his age he moves a lot more

I am driving myself insane with these concerns and I'm too embarrassed to speak to my partner about this as he will just say I'm overreacting, I just need some advice whether I should go to a professional if these concerns are not normal in his development.

My DD is 13weeks old, exactly same as your kid. Always avoiding my gaze held and stare at ceilings and smile at it. I am also worried to hell and cannot take my mind off of it.

Firstly @mishimab I am so sorry your experiencing the same worries and I honestly know how horrible your feeling! Is this your first child also? When did your DD start behaving like this, I think my DS started just after he was 2 months or a bit before. I've looked online for answers and there's so many options of what it could be, have you spoken to anyone about it?

She was behaving like this from the birth, now she is improving a little bit by catching my eye contact for seconds when held. And this is my first child. I also look online for answers but only scary stuff come up and makes me worried more and more. Hope someone will give us some answers here.

Yes @mishimab I hope so too, my son has been doing the smiling at ceiling since birth also. Is your DD smiling at you or just at the ceiling. I plan to speak to a professional about this is we don't get answers on here and will keep you updated if I do speak to you one.

Thanks, I will be looking forward for your update.
I was wondering- when your child stares at ceiling, can he be distracted? Because my DD zones out when she stares at light or ceiling and I cannot distract her even almost yelling at her ear. Makes me really really worried.

1st, mine was the same. Very common.

2nd and 3rd, why are you worried? Why don't you think this is normal? 11 week old babies are still so tiny they're still getting to grips with limb control, and even the 5, 6 and 7 yr olds I know love spinning things on the ceiling. If I had £1 for every time I caught my NT cousin staring at a ceiling fan in fascination I'd be rich! (9 years old)why do you think spinning tops etc are traditionally kids toys?

My son was identical when he was that age and I worried so much. Looking back I was struggling with really bad post natal anxiety. My son is absolutely fine now and very typical in his development (just about to turn 2 years.) I know what you’re worrying about but it’s likely you don’t need to

I haven't attempted to distract him when he's staring at the ceiling but I will keep you posted @mishimab

I think @ForeverBaffled has made me question I might have post natal anxiety as I worry about everything and from @OnlyAGirlsHorse saying about worrying the 2nd and 3rd point maybe I am over exaggerating, I google everything since I had him. It's horrible but I honestly can't help myself, I just put it down to being a first time mum, but possibly it could be more.

But thank you ladies for this reassurance, and I hope @OnlyAGirlsHorse and @ForeverBaffled replies

has also helped you @mishimab with your DD.