Getting rid of the dummy? Should I and if so how!

[fifi20]

Hi - am looking for some tips or advice from experienced dummy removers!
My daughter is 9 months and has a dummy to go to sleep. She never has it out of her cot, and she knows that she needs to leave it in her cot when she has finished her nap. However she is starting to get funny if she cant find it in the night - so I have started leaving more dummies in the cot! However if she doesnt want to go back to sleep she throws them out of the cot onto the floor (wooden floor) so makes a loud noise - and then screams until I go in and give them back.
I thought it might be easier to take it away now, before she is old enough to reason about it - but not likely to get much support from husband who just wants a quiet life and doesnt mind how .
Any tips for getting rid:?? Or should I just leave it and wait until she gives it up naturally??

oh, had to add something here...my ds gave his up on his 4th b'day ( only had them at night) told him the dummy fairy would come for them as when he was 4 he was a big boy and they had to take them to the new babaies. I out $10 under his pillow and a little card and when he woke at 4 in the morning of his b'day to say I can't find my dummy i read the card out. he was really excited and went straight back to sleep and we had no other problems (i couldn't believe it really)

So I was very lax and he was ready to give it up and could reason with the dummy fairy...

I would much prefer this than thumb sucking which 3 friends I know have experienced - as having got used to dummy then still wanted something to suck once it had been disposed off - they now have their thumbs in (much harder to stop)

My ds was a pain in the arxe sleeping so we actually reinforced the use of a dummy to help him - but if your ds is waking up because of them then thats more disturbing....

sorry for long ramble but hth

Yes fifi20, let us know how you get on.

Thanks - I think I will still try to get rid though - I think I will have the pain now rather than when I have another child to worry about too!
Have to tell my freaky story though - 2 nights ago DD woke up at 2am (unusual). Wasnt crying just chatting so thought I would leave to see if she went back to sleep. After 40 mins still no sleep (no crying though!) so went into nursery to see DD sitting up in cot! Had never done this before (has since got from lying to sitting in the day) but hadnt before then. It freaked me out! She went back to sleep when I laid her down (and gave dummy!) but I had nightmares the rest of the night about her getting out of her cot!! [grim]

Hi. Just to add some support.. .

DO it now! It's much easier than you think, but start on the daytime naps if poss, don't go straight for the nighttime one...

I saw immediate effects on his night wakings - see my dummy weaning diary here

Thank you - read your diary - really useful - so did you drop the dummy in the day and then still give at night. Or did you just take away one morning and never again? DD sleeps really well in the day. 1.5 hrs in morning & 1.5 hrs in afternoon (more if I would let her - but I wake her up!). It is the nighttime at 4 or 5 am - thats when I think the real issue is!

Once I started to drop the dummy, I did it for all sleep times, so as not to confuse him.
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Good Luck!

What we did was a tad hard but worked in 4 nights and didn't cause the baby any distress. Would you like me to tell you what we did?

The other option of course is to put the dummy on a leash so she can find it herself in the night. We were having problems with DS at about 4-5months waking up every hour for the dummy so I just got a leash and he soon learned to find it himself. He is 21 months and still has it. We will take it off him when he is old enough to process that it is going and why.

Don't do that! She could get it wrapped round her neck.

Do the pick up/put down/shush thing I suggested and you'll be laughing in a few days.

Dummy clips are too short to let a child strangle themselves (ie they can't wrap around the neck)
I can imagine it is a nightmare if a dummy is keeping them awake. My ds had his until 3 (or was it 4?? - I can't remember anything about my children! ) but it was a lifesaver for us.

A dummy clip yes, but she suggested a leash which suggested it was much longer.

I assumed it was just another word for it - poss American, though of course, I could be wrong. My ds eventually wanted to give up his dummy and it was easy. In fact, everythign I tried to push with ds was a mistake.

what about using a dummy clip to attach dummy to a soft toy or blanket? that way she wont lie on the clip which would be uncomfortable.

I intended to let ds wean himself off it but at 2 I got impatient! I cut the teat off it with the scissors! Showed him that it was broken and he said 'oh no....' then rolled over and went to sleep for the first time ever without the dummy - he has never asked for it again! he had never ever slrpt without it before- i was gobsmacked but I certainly worked!!! x

Ooops yes, for leash I meant dummy clip , the ones that have the wee length of tape that leads from the clip to the dummy so it can't wrap around their neck. I certainly wouldn't advocate anything longer. Just a bit of colloquialism getting in the way of good communication eh!

reviving this thread to ask NAB3 what method she used??

NAB????

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