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2 year old DD is worrying me sick

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Qwerty3210 · 23/10/2019 20:06

Ok so I'm probably overreacting but suddenly I feel very worried about my DD. In fact I feel guilty that I've not done enough and have caused her problems. She is my everything and to feel like I've let her down is absolutely killing me.
She's almost 27 months, she says words but doesn't really use them appropriately. She will walk round saying thank you for nothing? She never sits still, even when eating she will take a bite and run off. She jumps and flaps her hands when something is exciting to her but it doesn't seem like it's uncontrollable. She doesn't tell me when she wants milk she just reaches out for it when I hold it and ask her if she wants milk.
I've really tried in repeating everything to her, pointing out things, reading to her, doing one on one. She doesn't seem interested and won't really listen most of the time. She loves to sing songs from the TV and copies phrases perfectly, and does actions to nursery rhymes. But I'm worried there's something wrong because she's not talking in sentences and doesn't say "I" or "me" like in the 2 year check questionnaire. I've contacted a health visitor who will be seeing us in 2 weeks. But I just want to know (hoping) that someone else has been in this position and their DC has turned out ok. Please reply if you read this :(

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Mummy0ftwo12 · 23/10/2019 22:38

Does she understand/follow simple instructions?

Point to show you what's she's interested in?

Have you looked at the m-chat screening test?

My dd wouldn't sit still at that age, couldn't even manage 3 minutes for circle/story time at nursery but her language development was normal.
I totally doubt that its anything you have done, not done though.

AladdinMum · 24/10/2019 10:21

Like previous poster has mentioned it is nothing you have done (or not have done). I wouldn't worry too much at the moment about full sentences or pronouns as it could just be a speech delay and those are very common at that age. How many words does she have? sentences typical don't start until she has over a hundred words in her vocabulary.

What you want to be looking for at this age is her ability to follow simple instructions, her ability to communicate using gestures (so pointing to request things, pointing to show you things of interest like a plane in the sky), her ability to engage in single pretend play, examples of social referencing (making eye contact with you when she is cautious or unsure after something has happened like a loud noise), etc.

Qwerty3210 · 25/10/2019 22:55

She has 50+ words but she doesn't really point. She will point out foods she wants or pictures in books. She does make eye contact quite a lot and listens to her name sometimes but won't follow many instructions. She will come to me if I tell her to but not much else. I sort of feel I've never taught her to do some things though, I never really used to point to her so how would she know to do it? I'm so terrified and angry at myself for not noticing sooner... Hmph feel an absolute failure.

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Mummy0ftwo12 · 25/10/2019 23:07

I don't think pointing is something you teach, using gestures is a stage toddlers go through and she has words and can communicate with you what food she wants my DS could do none of that at 27 months - if she has ever pointed to show you something she is interested in then that's great. Are you worried about autism or something else?

Qwerty3210 · 26/10/2019 18:56

Yes I really think she has autism now.. she seems to have got worse this week which is really strange as it's seemed really sudden. She won't really do anything she used to :( I'm going back to gp on Monday..
You mentioned your son, did he improve quite quickly?

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Witchend · 26/10/2019 19:39

Hand flapping is still considered normal at that age.

AladdinMum · 28/10/2019 15:23

Pointing is not a taught skill - a toddler could never see anyone point before but they will normally start pointing by 18M to request and to share interests as it comes organically from inside (this has been shown in many studies). This is different to a taught skill like for example waving, if a toddler never sees anyone wave before then they will not wave themselves. Her lack of understanding is a little concerning though, specially if she already has over 50 words as understanding (receptive language) tends to develop before spoken (expressive) language. It is probably worth mentioning it to your GP. It might also be worth taking the M-CHAT screening test online to give you an indication of what to look for.

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