Hello,
I really need some help and advise.
I have two children my son Joshua is 7 and my daughter Ella is 10 , my son has always always been a mommy's boy ever since he was a baby it's all me that he wants, however when Joshua was 1 me and the children's father split up (they've got same dad) he continued to see them every weekend and took them on holiday etc a year later I got into a new relationship fast forward to this last year and social services stopped the children's father from seeing them as the kids told school he was hitting them (smacking when naughty he is very short tempered ) this was in the September, he took me to court to gain access to the children but unfortunately we didn't see the court case through as he passed away in May, the relationship I was in I was always very controlled to the point where I only left the house to get the kids from school and do a bit of food shopping the relationship then turned violent and me and my children had to run , we are currently living in a women's refuge however that is not my problem the problem is my son is super clingy I mean clingy to the point where he would rather sit and wet himself than go to the toilet without me , he walks that close to me when we're out that he causes me to trip over, I always have to be in eye sight of him and if I'm not he panics and has a tantrum, he won't go up to his room alone he will go with his sister but then it's every couple of minutes he is coming to give me a hug to make sure I'm still there basically, I've tried talking to people and all they say is he has been through a lot he will settle down and that's all fair and true but he's always been like this but it has got worse since the above has happened I mean even if I'm in the shower he will sit outside not sure if he thinks I'm going to escape down the drain or something lol.
But when he goes to school he is absolutely fine he doesn't cry for me he goes to bathroom alone school have said he shows nothing like what I've mentioned.
I love my children so so much and I will do anything for them but Joshua also needs to give me a little bit of space and he needs to be a little more independent.
Please any advice I would massively appreciate
Xxx