2 year old boy loves girly things

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My son turned two in August and he is absolutely OBSESSED with the color pink. If it's girly and pink, he loves it. When we go to the shop and he spots a doll, a purse, makeup anything pink his eyes light up and he runs towards it. Now I don't have an issue with it at all in fact of I was a single mom I'd allow my son to pick the toys HE wants and I'd respect that his favourite color is pink. The issue comes with his dad. His dad has a major problem with it. At first he didn't care as he assumed he'd stop but his love for girly things now has only intensified. Now whenever my son picks anything pink up my husband will yell and him and say "no that's for the girls!" And it REALLY upsets my son. I don't like it and in fact we have gotten into a massive argument over it. I get anxious to take him to the shop because I know he's going to run towards all the girly things which will result in my husband yelling at him, then me yelling at my husband. He doesn't have any siblings and my guess is he watches me getting ready in the morning which makes him want to just copy what I do but my husband doesn't understand that. Any advice?

As I read a lot on here - you don't have a ds problem, you have a dh problem.

Well you need to stop calling them 'girly things'

It's a colour. It was historically worn by boys

Let toys be toys etc....

But yes, it's a husband problem not a child problem

Big husband problem there. My DS loved all the pink sparkly stuff at 2 and enjoyed wearing princess dresses etc. I just let him get on with it and do what he wanted - Dh also just left him to it. They're just colours and toys.

He's 4 and a half now and no longer interested - plays with a wide variety of toys and doesn't present as stereotypically girly. Still chooses pink sweets or pink colouring pens if the opportunity presents but doesn't appear to have turned into a girl yet....

He's two, does he even know his colours?

Captain kirk, my 2.3 yo could tell you the following accurately and has been able to for several months now:

blue, green, red, orange, purple, black, white, brown, yellow, pink

Harrysmummy

Good for him?

I think you may have missed my point though, the child is 2 and he's having stereotyping imprinted on him by his father.
I wonder if the OP's child even knows his colours?

This must be really difficult for you. My brother loved pink and had a doll and pushchair for his 5th birthday, he has nothing to do with the colour pink or dolls now. You could compromise and if buying him something go for a pink car or something and there is no harm in encouraging him to look at the boy stuff too. I would have a chat with your husband and find out what he is anxious about and what he thinks that he could do to compromise so everyone feels happier.

I never said the problem was with my child @CaptainKirksSpikeyGhost of course he knows his colours. He's very smart and actually behaves a lot older than his age as I always spoke to him properly and clearly. Im actually a nursery teacher. He knows he letter, animals, shapes, etc.. he speaks above his years.

The advice I was looking for was general. As I mentioned before I know it's just a color I have no issue with it at all. I understand to him pink is like any other color as he's only two and doesn't understand society yet. Yes the problem is with DH. Thats the advice I was hoping to get. DH has major issue with it it's very annoying. I've explained to him over and over again but he doesn't get it.

I understand to him pink is like any other color as he's only two and doesn't understand society yet.
Yes the problem is with DH

Have you actually said to your husband that he's damaging your child, going to give him hangups and issues?

Have you asked your husband what he would think if it was the opposite way around? If you had a little girl and she was interested in cars and trains he wouldn’t bat an eyelid. My ex was the type to behave like that, luckily by the time my ds was 4 we’d moved out and the pink sparkly frozen toy I brought for him when he chose it in the shops was never seen by him.
Is he homophobic? Does he think your Ds will turn out to be gay because he likes the colour pink? My ex used to think like that. He was a moron and your dh sounds like one too I’m afraid.

It sounds like your husband may be concerned you DS may become gay.

Trust me these sort of things shouldn't be stressing him out he should just be grateful his son is happy and healthy. I say this as a Muslim father.