Hi, so, some background here
As my name suggests, we had IVF - horrific years later, we had our rainbow boy and he is the light of my life.
I am mentioning this, as I feel it is relevant to my attachment to him. I have always wanted children, I love kids, my dream job would be a nursery nurse and ID love to adopt siblings for my son in the future. We tried so hard for him, waited so long, had a horrific MMC at 13 weeks before him and
anyway, here goes. Am i creating an unhealthy relationship?
DS is now 2.5 years old, we have recently moved house with a mortgage (yay) from my mums house. in my mums, we were squashed for space and we all had to sleep in the same room. DS sleeps in his own bed, next to my bed. We fall asleep holding hands almost every night.
Now we have moved house, I have kept him in our room instead of introducing him to his own. 1) his room needs painting (it is currently luminous pink) and 2) im being selfish. I love our arrangement where we can cuddle at night in adjoining beds. We often snuggle in the night and it breaks my heart to think of this time stopping.
My son always wants me, he is a proper mummy's boy and doesnt want his dada 90% of the time - when we wake up in a morning, if I am not there, he gets extremely upset. IF I am there, he clings to me like a koala bear until about 10 minutes later when he finally comes around.
This may be normal, I am not sure, I dont have friends with 2 year old children, so I cant ask! So, what do you think? is my behaviour developing an unhealthy relationship?
I work full time and I miss my boy, so I feel like the time at night when we hold hands is a way of getting in those extra cuddles.
I do plan for him to go into his own room, but I think I will wait until he asks for it
Please be nice!