Suppernanny

[jacobliam]

Hi all, does anyone know if it is possible to contact supper nanny with out having to appear on telly im having a realhard time with my boys but i dont really want it broardcast for the whole nation to see.
Anyone know how to get a private consultation with her if need be im that desperate

thanks
Laura

starouchedtrinity

Can see the point and at things like a coffee morning where there are drinks within reach I say do not touch its hot, however, at home with jobs to do and dinners to prepare etc you can't always have your eye on them. Safety first i say.
shes a braver lady than me!

Oh absolutely, they do need to be exposed to dangerous things and shown the difference (hot/cold, sharp, hard etc.) But not all the time!

I agree we need to teach them dangers, but surely it's best to keep them as sensibly away from danger until they are at an age to understand?
Both for their health and our sanity!!!
Childhood should be an enjoyable time for both parent and child, I know my kids have more fun not constantly worrying if mum's going to tell them off for touching something!!!

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Might help you. However you can limited help free on the nhs. Athough the nhs help is nowhere as intensive as supernanny. are you are clinically depressed? It is much harder to look after small children is the mother is struggling to cope. Prehaps something like surestart could give you moral support.

Baby proofing the house is essential.

Is your four year old at nursery?

"She has now moved to a new house which has an unfenced garden on a busy road. She's not having it fenced but is teaching them not to go onto it. Ditto the pond... "

Your friend is likely to end up with one of her children in a coffin.

It is really easy to teach children to be safe once they reach the age of 3 or 4 and have good language skills. However it is a waste of time trying with a child who has limited language skills.

Hi all well after a few days of cracking down on both the ds's things are getting a bit better,still not great but we are getting there!
Just got to work on the sleeping now, if i was notso tired i think i would be able to cope better.
I really want to do the controlled crying but at the moment it seems like such a daunting task.
Any tips on that would be greatfully recieved!

Really tired in answer to your questions;
i dont think im depressed, i have been before after ds1.i am low but not to the point of being depressed. a lot of it is tiredness my job is physically demanding i have to have us all ready and out the house by half 7 which is no mean feat, dh leaves for work very early so he cant help me with that side of things.
Ds1 is not at nursery, he will be at school in sept, i could not continue to send him to nursery during hols as it would bankrupt me without the govt funding!
Im gonna take each day as it comes now andnot get myself all worked up.

Pick a week when nothing particular is happening.
Explain to your child what will happen in the order it will happen. i.e. we are going to have evening meal then you can play for x amount time, then we will go and have a play in the bath, clean teeth, I will read you a nice story then you need to go to sleep until the morning.
Stay focused.
Make a note of excuses your child makes to get out of bed. if its a drink then ensure you take one up at bath time. If its a snack take one up ready. Ask if he needs anything before leaving the room.
Once you have left room ignore shouting etc for 10 mins. if still happening and coming out of room hold door shut and say you will open it when they get back into bed. Open door as promised. Say if they get out of bed that the door will be closed again.
If they come down the stairs take them back to bed as calmly as poss saying its bedtime time to sleep. Any other times DO NOT SPEAK AT ALL. Just lead them back into bed. Leave the room. This works usually if consistently done after no longer than 2 weeks.

Forgot to say REMEMBER A FEW SLEEPLESS NIGHTS FOR 2 WEEKS IS BETTER THAN YEARS OF DISTURBED SLEEP.when you feel like giving up!

I totally agree with tori, Both my children go to bed really well, they are 2 and 6 and up until next week have been sharing a room. I do the whole bath, pjs', teeth, bed stuff.
I do hear them talking to each other on occasion but a swift "sleep or mummy's coming up, and she wont be very happy" normally does the trick. They know if I go up, toys are getting removed!!
Just persevere, anything you see, ie supernanny or the BBC3 one (can't recall it's name right now) will show this is the best way to do it.
Children know how far they can push you, my lo still push it a bit if I've allowed them up later than usual.
Good Luck, you'll be surprised at how quick it works!

Oh and just to reiterate what tori said "Any other times DO NOT SPEAK AT ALL. Just lead them back into bed. Leave the room."
This means do not repeat yourself, say it once and once only, it is not a discussion, they are going to bed and doing as they are told. As soon as you enter into a conversation with them it becomes a tactic to stay up and take back your control.
Once again.
Good Luck!