So DSS has always been a particularly strangely behaved boy but now I’m starting to wonder if it’s a little more deep rooted.
He’s spoilt and been pandered to his whole life so if it’s just a case of he knows he can get away with it then by all means let me know.
A few examples-
He steals from me, change I’ve left laying about, soft toys I’ve had from childhood or little Lego toys I’ve kept from I was young go missing frequently.
It’s so hard to get him to make himself a snack such as toast or even just a sandwich.
He speaks to my DD like she’s a dog and thinks it’s acceptable to punish her like one I.e. shouting down at her or hitting her hands
He’s only recently stopped wetting the bed.
He cries at everything, getting the bus, thinking he’s being told off, his games.
He lies constantly.
He counts down what time he has with his dad, “I’ve an hour before you take me home,” “oh 45 minutes,” “half an hour left.” Anytime DD falls or hurts herself he will make a comment about how it’s my fault as she’s my responsibility, even if his dad in the room.
He asks what every phone call is about butts into every conversation and needs to know exactly where he’s going and will be doing along with asking repeatedly.
He pours leftovers down the sink while baby clothes are steeping, spills everything and leaves it till someone else notices and cleans it, leaves the fridge and freezer open constantly.
Examples of the bigger lies are he went to school annoyed because his dad told him he had to get the bus and told his school teacher his dad deliberately play fights with him and hurts him, now I’ve been in his life 3 and a half years and his dads been in 1 play fight which his DS instigated and he told his mum I bully him because I wouldn’t let him have chocolate while cooking his dinner.
I could really go on for hours, it’s mainly me he acts up with though I’ve heard his mum say before she’s been finding it hard.
Is this spoilt behaviour? Is it just preteen behaviour? Is it Evil stepmum rebellion? Is there something more cognitive?