5 year old misbehaving

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My 5 year old son has returned to school and is now in year 1. We thought he had transitioned well but now unsure? He was fine the first week but on Friday he had a massive meltdown in the evening not being allowed a capri sun as it was bedtime so only water. That turned into a 10 minute screaming session and him flinging himself around on his bed. We told him his friend was no longer allowed the next day (we followed through on this) over the weekend his behaviour was a bit up and down (jekyl and hyde) one minute he was fine and the next just a nightmare screaming if he couldn't get his own way. He cried before school yesterday over a Disney card as I said he couldn't take it in. I then spoke with his teacher in the afternoon to explain he hadn't been great over the weekend and how has he been at school. His teacher informed me 'he was acting out a little bit' and had been asked 3 times to do something and didn't. He also said my son has been involved in a not so positive group who have been telling him to do things (such as throwing toys) and 'unfortunately he has Been getting caught' I punished our son with no tv last night or this morning as at the moment that is all he wants to do to chill and no books by me but to still practice his reading. Did I go overboard? And everyone keeps reassuring me it is a 5 year old thing and 'normal' as year 1 is trickier but I am such a worrier. He has also been waking at night terrified of the dark which is unlike him so he is so tired in the morning. Not sure what I am after, maybe reassurance, advice? I just worry and maybe need to ease off slightly or do I need to be harder?! Please no judgey comments!

Sounds as if your DS is tantrumming and misbehaving at home because he is getting overtired and stressed at school. The waking at night sounds like a bit of anxiety. He is getting scolding and punishment at school so he'd benefit from calm relaxed and friendly time at home to recover. So don't punish him at home for what happens at school unless the teacher specifically asks you to. Trust the teacher to manage his behaviour in school and the group dynamics. Also do not punish him for tantrums and screaming etc, there is no point and it only adds to everyone's misery. Don't give in to the tantrum, don't let him take his Disney card into school or have juice instead of water etc, but if he tantrums just give him time to shout etc and then calm down and move on.

Think about not doing anything too exciting right now. Calm, routine, friendly. Let him chill in front of the telly after school (though I didn't allow TV in the morning before school because it was too hard to tear my DS away, but whatever works for you) If he usually has a friend round that's OK but he might just be finding it all a bit much right now.

its probably the transition to a more 'work' rather than play based environment
as ^^pp said , hes tired and stressed because its a new routine with less activity and more writing
maybe a quick run round the park then home, tv tea ,bath, bed for a while till he gets used to it

No words of advice but my ds is really struggling with the move to y1. I've been really surprised.

It's daft to ban tv or reading hours later when presumably he's already had a consequence at school- it's not that clear to make that link at that age. And is he sufficiently good with words to tell you what's wrong? If it's tiredness? Or knowing those 'friends' are encouraging him to do wrong?