I need advice please- toddler behaviours!

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Hello

I have a 2.5 year old and an 8 week old. My toddler has been very good with the baby, always wanting to hold or see where they are etc but their behaviour is starting to change, and it’s hard to judge if it’s just standard toddler behaviour or because of the baby and him realising the baby’s not going!!

Everything is ‘no’ -he plays up a lot more leaving places (can develop into a full scale meltdown if he really doesn’t want to go.) selective hearing, not doing as he’s told. He’s been potty training for a while now and seems to be having more accidents than normal, always says ‘no’ when asked to go to potty but will wet himself just after.(not constant but need to be really on it at the moment or he will just wee) and he’s waking up at night, crying, calling out for us, for seemingly no reason but for us to sit in the room.

I just wondered if people had been through any of these issues and if there were any tips on how to improve things?

Thank you

An addition to the family just as youve nearly cracked the potty training does have an adverse effect. Children often train well, but are not really sure just yet why they are doing it that way. Seeing a baby still doing things the old way is confusing, as is their position in the family. Reinforce your love, and ensure DSs routing is not unduly compromised by the baby. Following up on commands to DS will be difficult, and you may have lapsed. Make sure 1) You listen to DS, 2) He does what you ask. 3) You do what DS needs.

Just a couple more things to add, you say DS says No more often, I assume the leaving places is a friend, and you have Baby with you. You might be the one preoccupied, and not giving enough warning to DS of departure. What do you do when DS says No?
And does DS eat lots of grapes, which I understand is a diuretic.