How do you deal with 'tantrums' at 1?

[sammysam]

DD is coming up to 13months and is very determined and strong minded and had back arching tantrums all the time when she is told 'no' or stopped from doing something dangerous.

How do you deal with this when they aren't old enough to reason with?

Sometimes this turns into a full blown 'paddy pants down' and she takes forever to calm down.

Normally she is very chilled except for these moments......dp thinks she is just trying it on but she gets really worked up and hot.

What to do?!

Would love to know as well!

DD is 11m and started throwing wobblers at 10m. So far I have just tried distraction and cuddles until she calms down. Hard work isn't it?!

I used to ignore them

Distraction only ever works on very minor ones-and even then not always

And cuddles...they mainly make her worse! She gets more worked up and hot and bothered!

I try to ignore them but they can last a while and also she normally ends up hurting herself with all the throwing herself around but at least then the cuddles work

ignore, ignore and ignore!
DS also does the back arching thing so i put him down somewhere he can't hurt himself and step away so i can still see him - they do fizzle out quite quickly
He is 14.5 months but can strop with them best of them

Agree IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE - dont look dont talk, make yourself look very very busy then the second they stop (not just for breath but to wonder why u are not paying attention) you give them a big smile and say have you finished now, good lets play!!!!!!!!!!!! (in a childrens tv presenter style voice)

Make your "busy look" convincing!

DS is 14 months and been tantrumming for a few months too. I first try to distract and forstall it at the start but if that fails I ignore. Lots of attention when he's then calm. But sometimes ignoring can make him virtually boil over so then I will sit in the middle of the floor and actively play with his toys and he normally will then come over, calm down and join in. I think you have to give them a "get out" option. Once last week he was screaming so much I had to go in to his room to calm down before going back to deal with him! And normally he's such a sweet boy!

I ignore and carry on as normal - talking about things and showing him stuff as if he weren't doing it - usually he forgets the tantrum, drops it as its not having an effect in terms of any change in my behaviour - ie I'm seeming not to react to it at all...this wasn't something I invented - advice from my mother who I believe still employs the same technique with me...