Please describe your 6 year old!

[Londonmummy00]

Hello everyone,

My son is just about to turn 6, and I am struggling with some aspects of behaviour. He is my first child and a boy, and I have not much to compare with other than his younger sister who is quiet, eager to please and a typical ‘good girl’.

My son, on the other hand, is either just a lively boisterous boy or there could be more going on.

He interrupts constantly when I’m talking to another adult or on the phone (even when pre warned that I am about to make a call!)
Constantly talking all the time (I have at times actually had to tell him to stop talking but this was during the summer holidays! 🙈)
Very jealous over his younger sister. They constantly fight and wind each other up. It’s usually he who starts it but she’s now getting as bad. They both wind each other up and watch the other go mad.
Jealous over me giving his sister attention. Has said a few times (but still rarely) that she ‘always gets all the attention’ (even though he gets loads of attention)
Always in the bottom quarter of the class for behaviour (low level disruption, talking, blurting our answers to questions)
Likes to get a rise/ reaction out of me at times especially if told no with comments such as ‘I can’t wait to go to boarding school!!! Or ‘X’s mum is the best as she is a great runner and faster than you are that’s why she’s the best’!! (As I did not run in sports day parents run!!) (he also is not going to boarding school)
Very materialistic always talking about what toy he wants next, what party for his birthday, what for Christmas...
I’m always telling him to use his ‘indoor voice’ at home

Onto the positives!
Great 1:1 can have a lovely day out together without telling him off much at all
Listens to me well and does as he is told especially with the threat on a time out
Popular at school
Bright academically , if put more effort in instead of ‘messing around’ could be a A* student. He’s currently a B which of course is still great!
Likes doing after school clubs with his friends
Is shattered by 6.30pm and goes to sleep within 5 min. Sleeps all night 12 hours.
Likes to be helpful and do jobs, but mostly if he’s getting something out of it
If his sister is hurt or anything serious is wrong with her (a paper cut and the cut is bleeding!) he will drop everything to rush and be with her hold her hand and help me with her until she’s better!
(Genuinely worries about her)
Loves cuddles and love and kisses but usually on his terms and at school drop he prefers I ask him first if he wants a kiss or a cuddle or to just go today.. he picks a different one each morning :)

Please tell me about your 6 year olds ! X

My 6 year old DD sounds similar, although she is struggling with her reading and writing. She is extremely artistic though, loves drawing. She is a very immature 6 year old (I realise that sounds odd - but I mean she behaves a lot more like a 3yr old) if we get paints out for eg, if I turn away for a minute she will end up naked covered head to toe in paint and then cry because she has to have a shower . She has tantrums bigger than my toddler and 4yr old put together!! She is impulsive, extremely noisy and chats constantly. Cannot sit still for a second and interrupts ALL. THE. TIME.

She is very affectionate though, still climbs into bed with me every day and loves cuddles.

Sounds similar to mine he’s full of such anger, constantly fighting his sister who’s having temper tantrums worthy of an Oscar award! Our neighbours hate us because of all the screaming and I’ve even had police called to my home, I try everything to manage their behaviour I’ve taken toys away, we have a quiet corner with their favourite books I’ve tried one to one time I’ve tried us all sitting together at dinner times and not looking at my phone until
They’ve gone to bed. I’m at my wits end I honestly think these kids hate me, I’m close to packing a bag and leaving them with their father who they love so much more than me and he’s never here!! Any moms with ideas please help!