I don't like my toddler right now

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Don't get me wrong I love him but at 3 it's going from one melt down to another and finding it hard to cope . He hits me all the time and is very clingy so always wants to be with me .when he was 2 he was a pleasure to take anywhere now at 3 I almost dread it . Any tips please

Use time outs every single time he hits, praise him heavily when he behaves well and doesn't hit and teach him the 'gently technique'. Basically, if he gets heavy handed, tell him he needs to do it gently. So if he goes for you say no, gently and take his hand and stroke your face with it and praise him for it and show love and that you enjoy him being gentle. If he tries to throw toys about or goes to, say no and show him to gently place the toy down. If he doesn't follow it and a hit happens or a toy gets thrown, straight to time out.

I had a hell of a hitter. Infact, a face ripper. He's a joy now, loving and aware

I watched a montessori at home video on YouTube just the other day to help with a few issues sort of similar to yours. But I was fed up with timeout because I felt like I wasn't showing her the attention she needed which resulted in even more negative behaviour and like you, tantrum after tantrum after time out after time out. Not fun for anybody
Think it may help you? This is the quick overview one I watched that gave me a few new ideas to help with my 3 year old, and even in just a few days there is a dramatic difference. Don't get me wrong, she still sits on the step for a few minutes when something major happens that I feel needs that sort of "chill out time" for her so we can actually have a conversation without both of us screaming at each other. But a lot more preventative things, figuring out how to get her to explain her feelings and frustrations so she understands them too.

Really hope it helps