10 year old daughter wont let me and mum chill together

[Milli88]

Hi all,
New to the gang and appreciate any advice you folks might have.

Ok so i have three amazing lil monkeys two boys and one girl. 13, 10, and nearly 3.
I have been with my lady for near 17 years now and i work nights have done for almost 4 years. Now the issue is that whenever i have the night off work and it gets to the time i call big people time like after 10pm or however it is in various households what i mean is that there is a point where kids go sleep or to there rooms ect and the grown ups get to enjoy each others company without little terrorists running around.

My two boys are very good and chill in there rooms no drama ect however my daughter is always hovering around and will not sleep and according to my lady its only when i am off work so im guessing ir excitement of dad being home which is cool but after a very eventful day of me and her going out and doing stuff or jus lazing around the home together she just hates to let me and my lady chill together and its getting a tad annoying now.
Its affecting our sex life on a serious level to the point that we are scared to even look at each other let alone lay a hand. For example i write this post at 5am Wednesday morning and my lil girl has just gone to sleep after creeping around our room standing there at the door listening on us.
Me and my other half are both 31 years old and even after nearly 17 year are so heavily attracted to each other and we used to have a very healthy sex life but cos of my daughter alwasy hovering around and not sleeping its got to the point that we might aswell have two single beds or i just sleep downstairs...

Many thanks and any advice welcome at this point

What time does she go to bed when you're not there and is she used to sleeping in your bed?

I think it might be worth having s chat with your partner and setting her a bedtime of 9pm in the holidays, with a regular routine of bath, being read to and then sleep, in her own bed. Do you think this is something that might work for you and your partner?

Thx for your reply,

Those days finished a long time ago unfortunately,
Shes very ahead of her time if that makes sense, if i went in there with a book to read she would probably laugh at me and say shes not a toddler.

School nights are fine i would say she gets exhausted enough that there is some sort regulatory in her bed time but in the holidays its not happening.

Thx again

When im off and its holiday time i try and work em out like going to parks and swimming ect but there energy jus keeps growing instead of depleting bless em

What time does she get up?