Just interested in experienced mums’ opinions on this.
My DH has two children, a son 13 and daughter 10.
We’ve been a family for 6yrs.
In that time, DSS cannot recall any happy memories (such as holidays, days out, parties etc) where his sister was there. She almost always was. He won’t refer to her as being there, even though, to me, it’s obvious to even a child that she must have been! It’s always
‘you know that holiday you took me on, to lanzarote, and you me and dad went to that water park...?’
‘Yes, where DSD learned to swim?’
‘Oh, not that time... DSD wasn’t there’
‘We’ve never been on holiday without her...!’
‘Oh, never mind...!’
Both DH and ExW just think this is a funny quirk of DSS’ but it seems a bit sinister to me.
DSD absolutely adores her brother. She asks about him all the time if she’s not with him. He gets a lot of unique attention from his maternal gparents because he’s their only grandson, and has about 8 female cousins (and a sister). So he has always been a ‘bit special’...even DSD will say this!!
I find it so odd. But I have multiple siblings and not one of us was favoured.
Could this develop into a strange and inhibiting factor in DSS’ development? I can’t do much since both parents normalise it, but I am curious/weirded out by this.