22 month old telling his Dad to 'shut up'

[Jobean]

My DS language is quite developed now, he can put sentences together and is picking up/copying everything he hears. A couple of months ago I jokingly told DH to 'shut up' and DS copied. He didn't say it much then but now if you tell him off, he tells you to shut up or 'shurrup' as he says. It sounds so awful.

We're currently in a Catch 22 situation because if we tell him off for being cheeky because he's told his Dad to shurrup, he just says shurrup again - aaargh!!

The trouble is most of his peers are not saying as much as him and so I wonder whether he really knows the seriousness of the word and whether we should just ignore it or as I am doing saying we don't say that anymore we say be quiet.

He may be just thinking its a game now or a way of getting attention. I try explaining this to DH but he doesn't believe in the psychology stuff - he would rather give him a smack on the backside which I feel doesn't solve anything. Then we're getting into another territory of how you reconcile your different ways of dealing with certain situations with your child - and that's another problem altogether.

Any thoughts?

Ignore it

I agree with Cod. When he says it, just turn attention away from him straight away. And make sure he doesn't hear it again!

Oh my dd does this, has done since she was a similar age (she is just 2 now). We ignore it other than just to say "don't say that", though it doesn't actually bother me that much as I figure as she grows up she will grow out of it.

DS1 - 3 in July - started saying "s*d it" for a while (picked up from me ) - we ignored it after the first couple of times and he seems to have given up on it. The first time I explained it is what I say when I am very angry, and that I shouldn't and nor should he - the next time he said it he grinned at me and asked if I was very angry !

She was trying to get her bear to sit up the other day and he kept falling over. She said "oh F**cking bear"

We left the room in hysterics (she didn't see) and then told her it was NAUGHTY bear.

God knows where she got that from

Thanks everyone, justy have to train DH now who seems to have taken great offence that his DS would tell him to 'shurrup'. Now if he were older it would be different but he's not so IGNORE is the best way forward. I'll try and drum this into DH tonight when he gets home - out of ear shot of course!

When DS was a similar age Jobean he started saying 'sht' ... a lot ... we would be at the shops and from the pushchair would come "Sht, sht, sht ... "
When we told him not to say it he said it even more ...
So we decided to ignore it completely, not even react ... and within a couple of weeks he didn't say it any more.
He is nearly 5 now and this morning he was getting dressed and was having a few problems ... From my bedroom I heard, "BUGGER! Stupid bloody socks!"
I think DH and I need to revise our expletives!!!

I do OK - except when driving. I was recently shown up badly by DS, playing 'traffic jams' with another child. After much crashing, beep-beeping, vrooming etc, DS, 3 , expertly shouted 'get out of the F**g way!'

My dd is 2.8 and on Sunday she was wandering around the living room when she suddenly stopped, turned around and said "bloody sh*t" . My husband and I just stared at each other as she said it again and then wandered off again. Is ignoring really the best way to deal with this sort of thing? We have told her that we don't want to hear her saying such things, but I worry what she comes out with at nursery!!! My husband keeps saying he will resort to the way his parents in North Africa used to deal with him and his siblings if they swore - by dabbing the end of a red chilli pepper on her tongue!!

We used to get told to "shut up" a lot but now she is getting wise and just goes "shush"!!!

Also, every thing you ask her at present just gets answered with "what?". It is driving me insane and I am beginning to wonder if she has a hearing problem???