Am I being silly? Almost 18mo

[aquarius1994]

Ok so just wondered am I being silly or am I justified....
So I've never been the fun parent to our little almost 18mo boy. I try but it doesn't come natural. We do have a laugh but he has much more fun with daddy. Also I let him play independently a fair bit of the day so we have fun first thing and after nap etc but I also leave him to it while I do whatever and he seems happy

But lately hubby has been around a lot more in the week as he's self employed and it's quiet at the mo and he is a big kid and is always planting with him. Not all day long but more than me and I can see how much fun my sons having and sometimes I join in but not always but mr main worry is that my son is now gonna prefer the super duper fun parent to me!! But hubby is naturally fun and childlike and I'm not. I wish he would hurry up and go back to work and leave things as they were

Also I'm about 11 weeks pregnant so it's got me worried that what if the new baby ends up super close to fun daddy also and they both are and then I'm just the boring mum?

I would say I engage a fair bit and we do have laughs but just not as much or as frequent as daddy

Meant to say always playing with him, not planting

Anyone???

I think it’s natural, because your instinct is to instil boundaries and to provide consistency and safety. As a mum it is REALLY hard to balance the anxieties and structure you know your child needs with play and fooling about.

But kids need all those boring things too! Much more than you realise. And you provide something that dad doesn’t, if you think about it. You’re the consistency when he’s at work, you’re the security they seek when they’re hurt or worried, you make the food...etc etc

Kids up to a certain age will naturally gravitate towards fun and loose, mostly, but that’s not to say that you aren’t a ‘favourite.’

Try considering that your son likes to divvy up his time, splitting it between mum and dad, rather than dividing between fun and strict! 😊 Be easier on yourself xx

Seriously, your jealous that your child is having fun with their father?

.... Speeches

They'll both have different relationships with both of you. I'm sure they'll both love you for your different characteristics.

Thanks for all replies and sorry for late posting

I have relaxed a bit more...I think....sometimes when baby is crying I can soothe him better than my hubby can but then he does appear to have more fun with hubby than me which does get to me but what can I do, I'm just not naturally as fun

Ps I am the original poster it's just I changed my name